Women for Sobriety, Inc. is a non-profit organization dedicated to helping women overcome Substance Use Disorders. Founded in 1975, it was the first national self-help recovery program for women. The WFS New Life Program helps women achieve sobriety and sustain ongoing recovery. This blog is being preserved as an archive, as new posts are now being made on our main website, womenforsobriety.org.
Monday, January 8, 2018
Monday Thoughts ~ Statement #2
“Stress is something that is created in the
mind, basically, it’s how we look at things.So, our greatest defense against stress is the ability to change our minds;
to change our thinking.”-Goldie Hawn
“Every day brings a choice: to practice
stress or to practice peace.”-Joan Borysenko
“Stress is not what happens to us.It’s our response TO what happens.And RESPONSE is something we can choose.”-Maureen Killoran
Reducing negativity using the WFS New Life
Program is a courageous, daily act of strength which brings about feelings of
ease and comfort.Instead of blaming or
trying to escape life, the goal of Statement #2 is to reduce negativity.
Before New Life, negativity was hard to
understand.Life felt so difficult;
waiting for the next bad thing to happen, afraid to turn the corner, life just
felt unfair and I blamed everyone and everything.From our Program Booklet, “We are sometimes sullen, withdrawn,
and unable to cope.There were times we
drank or used to overcome negative thoughts, which only intensified our fears
and perpetuated negativity.”
Sobriety is the beginning of reducing
negativity while the daily practice of Statement #2 can insure recovery.Results vary from person to person, but some
of the consequences of a reduction in negativity can be: increased skills in
decision making/problem solving, increased health from feelings of balance,
confidence and assertion, intimacy and connection, and of course, a more
positive outlook paired with awareness.Instead
of life feeling a failure, life feels fulfilling!
·What are some strategies that help or work for you in reducing
Hi 4C Women,
I have been fighting negativity this past
year and what I’ve realized is that I can handle it.I can take a breath, feel the anxiety, the
fear and seek support and make a healthier decision in spite of my fears.Here’s the best part-I am no longer
permanently crushed, destroyed by a negative thought, situation or person.In the past, I would have stayed in
negativity, inviting it to my blame party that lasted for weeks, sometimes
months, oh heck, honestly for years!When
I think back on the me I use to be, I know for sure that is not the trip back I
want to take nor do I expect to.I have
learned a lot through recovery and WFS to NOT invite negativity a permanent
residence.Having Statement 2 in my
heart, saying it over and over, has been a gift.Life situations happen and feeling negative,
lost or fearful is a human response.It
is the coping tools we use that helps us to reduce negative feelings from
causing harm to our sobriety.The
biggest life lesson I have learned is to differentiate between what I call
useless worry which leads to overwhelming negative thoughts and serious
situations that require our need to problem solve before negativity is the only
thing we have on our plate.It is all
about reducing negativity, handling life's challenges in a healthy, positive,
productive way before we experience its destruction.
Think about the
last negative situation you dealt with.
«How did you cope?
«What was the outcome?
«What did you learn about yourself, your decision-making skills,
your confidence in handling a major or even minor challenge?
The chart below
describes the impact of stress on our body, mind, emotions and behavior.In WFS, we learn to identify our feelings so
we can begin to understand and make positive change.I believe the chart below will be another
avenue to explore those feelings as we identify our stressors.Hopefully that knowledge of these negative
effects will be a helpful guide for change in your New Life.