Monday, March 27, 2017

Monday's Message ~ Statement #11


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“The goal has its importance.  But the doing is what is truly fulfilling.  Every enthusiastic person has a goal that may be important, but the doing is intensely fulfilling, and it is the essence of enthusiasm.”
-Eckhart Tolle

“Knowledge is power, but enthusiasm pulls the switch.”  -Ivern Ball

“Live your truth.  Express your love.  Share your enthusiasm.  Take action towards your dreams.  Walk your talk.  Dance and sing to your music.  Embrace your blessings.  Make today worth remembering.”
-Steve Maraboli

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Statement #11, “Enthusiasm is my daily exercise.”  I treasure all moments of my new life.
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        This past weekend I listened and watched in awe as a young woman showered the audience with enthusiasm.  Quickly her fingers danced on the taut strings of her cherished violin, filling every open space with uplifting notes of joy.  The violin became an extension of her spirit and love, with my enthusiasm rising with every change of tempo.  This talented young lady looked skyward with each high note, her eyes lost in sweet emotion and I felt my spirit soaring.
        Before sobriety and my New Life, this moment would not have been possible.  My mind and body could not comprehend this feeling, this deep connection to the moment, to life.  Oftentimes, I had overlooked the present to get to the next, which today I understand, created and multiplied feelings of lack.
        Statement #11 in action is a portal to purpose, and for me it rides like a wave.  I felt enthusiasm run through me as I listened during the concerto and my skin tingled with goosebumps as my ears absorbed the melodies.  Drawing, painting, or writing, I am aware of enthusiasm but curiously only afterwards.  Maybe because I am so connected to what I am doing that I can only become aware afterwards.  No matter how or when I recognize it, I am grateful to be able live in enthusiasm.

Are you able to recall a time when you felt enthusiasm?  If you are having trouble identifying this feeling in your New Life, what small action can you take to create enthusiasm?
Hugzzz, Karen

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Hi 4C Women,
        I’m taking a class at church with the title, “Fight Back with Joy.”  It seems like an odd choice of words yet I have come to understand that just because I stopped drinking, it did not guarantee me a problem-free life but rather the tools to handle life’s challenges.  Statement 11 has awakened me to the fact it is awareness of the joy in life that requires our attention.
        One of the exercises in this class was to identify what we would do if we were given a certain amount of time.  After I made my list, I realized that there was actually nothing stopping me from doing any of the things I listed except now I had a time line.  It’s not as though I didn’t really know this already but seeing it in writing, made it so much clearer.
        Statement 11 is about celebrating more, regretting less and DOING.  It is all of the quotes at the beginning of this message.  I made a list of regrets a while ago and, again, seeing it in writing helped me to realize that I was still holding on to things that could not be changed rather than using that energy to add enthusiasm to my life, to search for what brings me joy today.
        Perhaps starting with simple joys is a way to start.  The chirping of birds in the early morning, the sound of waves or rain on the roof.  It is the awareness that leads us further into appreciation, action, and treasuring those moments. 

How about starting with answering these “sensory” questions:
I love the taste of:
I love the sight of:
I love the feel of:
I love the smell of:
I love the sound of:
--WFS Member
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Monday, March 20, 2017

Monday's Message ~ Statement #3

 

 
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“Happiness comes from our attitudes.  We must create it for ourselves.”
-Jean Kirkpatrick, Ph.D., WFS Program Booklet

“Sometimes your joy is the source of your smile, but sometimes your smile can be the source of your joy.”  -Thich Nhat Hanh

“Very little is needed to make a happy life; it is all within yourself, in your way of thinking.”
-Marcus Aurelius
 
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Statement #3, “Happiness is a habit I will develop.”
Happiness is created, not waited for.
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        Growing up, I learned that happiness was a goal to strive for; one that seemed akin to that carrot on a stick, just dangling out of reach.  When it did arrive, it was short-lived or was quickly replaced by negativity or drama.  Additionally, feelings of guilt and shame left no room for joy to flourish and I turned to alcohol for relief.  The false sense of happiness that I felt created a cyclical groove of sadness and short-lived ease, which over time became a deeply entrenched addiction.
        Sobriety and recovery provide the opportunity to discover what brings out happiness and joy.  It takes time to experience what authentic joy feels like, and I recall a time when I faked feeling happy.  My mind was whirling, wondering why I did not feel happy, even though I was doing something off of my bucket list.  I remember feeling flat, emotionless and thought something was wrong with me.  There was nothing wrong.  I was just learning to experience life without an alcohol crutch.  I felt unsteady at first, then felt more stable and balanced with each new day.  It is an ongoing journey; I am learning, experiencing life and discovering unexpected joys.
        Statement #3 takes daily practice and is effective in creating moments of happiness that form a base of contentment which is supportive even during the most difficult of times.  Today I can move through times of unbalance knowing that my thoughts and attitude either add or subtract to the situation.  Although math was not my strong suit, I am better able to formulate feelings of joy thanks to practicing this very empowering Statement.
Did you know that today is International Happiness Day?
What will you do to add to these festivities?
Hugzzz, Karen

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Hi 4C Women,
        It is an amazing journey to discover what brings us joy and happiness.  I learned that I continually looked only to the past to figure out what brought me joy, not taking into account my lifestyle changes, my emotional growth and even my physical health.  Using the past, as my only guide, left me disappointed and closed many new opportunities because I was stuck.  I am learning from the women in my group just how much is available to explore, new adventures to uncover and the best part is that if it isn’t what you thought, you can actually do something else!  No guilt in trying and not liking, feeling awful because you spent time exploring options.  That alone is worth discovering new ways to find joy.  I, too, see joy as the foundation to be able to face the difficult challenges that will come.  When I am feeling sad, disappointed, angry or hurt, I know these are reactions to a situation and will not last forever.  I know that allowing these feelings into my heart is the fastest way to heal them and let joy come back in.  Happiness is created by us, yet it is not meant to deny our authentic feelings.  Happiness/joy to me is the rock I stand on to keep me balanced and to face the fears that come and go.  The difference is making a decision to have a foundation of joy, peace, contentment or a life filled only with fears, living in the past, crumbling your self-worth.  It may sound foolish to ask such a question, yet I have lived that life and when I look back, I am surprised yet grateful for the guidance of WFS in creating the New Life I needed.
 
Questions to ask yourself:
·         I am happy when...
·         When I am happy, I...
·         I can make myself happy by...
·         I like to make others happy by...
·         When I am happy, I want...
--WFS Member
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Thursday, March 16, 2017

Teddy Bear Challenge 2017



What is it? 

Years ago, long time member and chat leader, TeddyBear Cuddle (TBC) started the Teddy Bear Challenge. Prior to the WFS Annual Conference, through her generosity, she donated $1,000 and challenged the membership to dig deep and help WFS by donating as well. And those $5, $10, and $20 donations from the membership added up. Over the years, we’ve raised over $55,000 for Women for Sobriety through this challenge!

How can I participate? 

You can send a personal check or U.S. money order via postal mail to the WFS office or (an easier way) simply go online to the WFS donation page at http://www.wfscatalog.org/Donations_c16.htm and make your contribution to this year’s TeddyBear’s Conference Challenge.
 
Certified Chat Leaders (CCL’s) Challenge Members 
 
The CCL’s are challenging the membership to match their $1,000 group donation! By donating $5, $30, or even a $1,000, let your heart drive you to participate in this worthy challenge.  Show your care and compassion in helping women find their courage to feel confident in starting a new life, free of addictions. Your donation goes directly into supporting WFS’s services and program.
 
Let’s Top 2016
 
Last year the Teddy Bear Challenge raised over $13,000 for Women for Sobriety. Let’s all chip in and rise above that amount and reach $15,000 in 2017!
 
All Love Given,
Returns Two-Fold
 
The CCL’s are honored to participate in this year’s challenge again to show their loving support to Teddy and to WFS. When giving from the heart, love returns two-fold.  Let’s do TeddyBear proud and make 2017 the best year yet! Get the word out that it’s time for the Teddy Bear Challenge!
 
 
Click to Donate Now!
 
Or send a check payable to WFS, Inc.
Write Teddy’s Challenge on the memo line.
 
WFS, Inc.
P.O. Box 618
Quakertown, PA 18951-0618
 
Phone: 215.536.8026 (to call it in)
Fax: 215.538.9026 (to fax it in)
 
 
 
WFS will announce the results after the conference weekend in June!

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Wednesday, March 15, 2017

WFS 2017 Annual Conference


WFS Annual Conference

 
June 9th-11th, 2017
 

 

  

Registration is Now Open! 

All women in recovery from alcohol and drug abuse are welcome to join us to celebrate a New Life. WFS is an abstinence-based self-help recovery program and requires that each woman be clean and sober during the event. The longer you are sober, the more potential there is to fully appreciate and learn from all that you can experience at the conference. You have the opportunity to participate in something that can create positive changes in your life... so come join us for an enjoyable weekend retreat in the company of 4C women!
 
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Where? When?

DeSales University  (CLICK HERE FOR MAP)
2755 Station Avenue
Center Valley, PA 18034
Friday, June 9 to Sunday, June 11

We hope you can join us for a great weekend getaway! An added bonus is that you can arrive a day early - THURSDAY - and spend some quality time with your WFS sisters at the dormitory. The registration price includes staying in the dormitory at DeSales Campus... the price will not be reduced if you choose to stay Off Campus. Give it a try! You will have a lot more fun staying in the dorm with all your new friends!
 
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SIGN UP EARLY

There will be a $20 DISCOUNT if you register by April 1st! The registration for the whole weekend with a double room is $280 (includes 2 nights at the dorm, 5 meals, and all workshops on Saturday and Sunday).
 
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Registration Deadline is May 16th 

You can FAX the form to the WFS office at 215-538-9026 or MAIL it to PO Box 618, Quakertown PA 18951. We will not be able to take registrations over the phone due to the Personal Responsibility Form needing to be signed. However you may wish to scan the form and email it to: contact@womenforsobriety.org.

IMPORTANT - If you have ANY Questions - call or email the WFS office directly. We appreciate your support of WFS! We are looking forward to seeing you!

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Auction Fundraiser
 
 
Don’t forget about WFS’s Annual Fundraiser! It will be held on Saturday during the Conference and we need your support... handmade items, crafts, artwork, quilts, jewelry, baskets of goodies.. it all adds up to lots of exciting bids and friendly competition to raise much needed funds for WFS. If you are bringing auction items with you to the conference, we will have a pre-auction set-up table on Friday to sort through all the items.. if not, we welcome you to ship auction items to the office (no later than May 16th). Last year there were over 300 items donated from all across the globe and we raised over $14,600 in 2 hours! Why not join in and be part of this fun and worthy fundraiser? To give you some inspiration - CLICK HERE and see pictures from last year's auction.
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Monday, March 13, 2017

Monday's Message ~ Statement #5




“With the new day comes new strength and new thoughts.”  -Eleanor Roosevelt

“A single footstep will not make a path on this earth, so a single thought will not make a pathway in the mind.  To make a deep physical path, we walk again and again.  To make a deep mental path, we must think over and over the kind of thoughts we wish to dominate our lives.”  -Henry David Thoreau

“Keep your thoughts positive because your thoughts become your words.  Keep your words positive because your words become your behavior.  Keep your behavior positive because your behavior becomes your habits.  Keep your habits positive because your habits become your values.  Keep your values positive because your values become your destiny.”  -Mahatma Gandhi

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Statement #5, “I am what I think.”
I am a capable, competent, caring, compassionate woman.
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        Before sobriety and my New Life, I was unconscious of my thinking.  In fact, I often did most of my thinking after an experience.  I went straight into knee-jerk reaction before thinking about any effects, which then intensified my thinking and I felt bad afterwards.  This was a habit that started early in my life and with the addition of alcohol, aggravated the entire process.  This was an emotionally difficult way to live.
        Statement #5 assists me with managing my thoughts and the ability to focus.  In sobriety and recovery, now I can think, react and feel.  This process allows me to pause, make informed decisions and feel a sense of contentment afterwards.  It is a satisfying way to live since I can embrace results instead of trying to escape them.  Even if a desired outcome is not reached, I have learned something valuable from the experience.
        The more I manage my thoughts and practice pausing, such as with meditation, journaling, or simply being out in nature, the better I can manage my thoughts.  I am no longer ruled by rampant, repetitive thoughts.  I feel a sense of calm today and my mind is clearer which opens a portal for depth, understanding and clarity.  Hugzzz, Karen

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Hi 4C Women,
        I recently was at a meeting where we had to finish a number of “I am and I am a” sentences.  I realized how automatic it was to think positively and this was brought to light when another person struggled and only had negative words to describe themselves.  This is what WFS has taught me.  Years ago, I would have been the person writing negative definitions of me - I am a worrier, I am worthless, unlovable, invisible, inadequate, stupid.  That list was so easy to complete back then.  I could rattle off the negatives as easily as I could brush my teeth.  In other words, second nature.  This is how I know in my heart that we are all capable of change.  The key is to be willing to change and then to practice!  Knowing is one thing, practicing is the answer to authentic change.
        I think that when change begins, the fact that not everything goes as we hoped, it can reignite the negative self-talk, i.e., if I was smarter, adequate enough, it would have worked out just as I hoped/expected it would.  This kind of thinking can be extremely detrimental to our sobriety.  It’s as though that thought gives us the go ahead to drink/drug because we screwed up anyway.  I see it as the time to be even more focused on our sobriety, insistent on learning, growing and working through the outcome.  After all, if we are what we think, it needs to be seen on the outside because we are working through it on the inside.  I see us as pioneers showing what can be done no matter what the result.  We are truly the strongest women because we can express our feelings, our fears, our concerns and work through them not collapse because of them.  It is hard work and yet so rewarding.  Sobriety is priceless.  It can’t be bought but it can be had with living the 13 WFS Statements.

·         How would you define/describe yourself?
·         How do you respond to an unexpected or disappointing outcome?
·         What is the first thought that comes into your mind?
·         How do you handle any thought of drinking/drugs?
·         What are your plans to be sure you keep on track?
--WFS Member
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Email: contact@womenforsobriety.org | Ph: 215-536-8026 | Fax: 215-538-9026
Join our Email Service by clicking HERE or text your email address to WFSORG at 22828.
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