Women for Sobriety, Inc. is a non-profit organization dedicated to helping women overcome Substance Use Disorders. Founded in 1975, it was the first national self-help recovery program for women. The WFS New Life Program helps women achieve sobriety and sustain ongoing recovery. This blog is being preserved as an archive, as new posts are now being made on our main website, womenforsobriety.org.
Monday, December 18, 2017
Monday Thoughts ~ Statement #4
“The best way out is always through.”-Robert Frost
“Don’t be pushed by your problems.Be led by your dreams.”-Ralph Waldo Emerson
“Life is problems.Living is solving problems.”-Raymond E Feist
With Christmas one week away, life can feel
full of problems: ‘when will this and that get done, what will they say, who
will do this’ or ‘how did that happen’ are just a few of the thoughts that can
run through the mind during the holidays.Problems can even feel larger than life during the holidays, and take on
a whole different energy.Thankfully,
sobriety and Statement #4 in action can help keep things in perspective.
A quote from our WFS
Program Booklet on Statement #4 reminds us “The value of this Statement is
in learning that we can control our reactions.There are times we permit ourselves to be bothered by people, things,
events, and actions, but we can utilize new tools.By increasing understanding of our problems,
we can better choose how we respond.”
Applying Statement #4 proactively is
helpful with managing stress during the holidays.Creating and using a plan can help with
focus, balance and can alleviate stressful feelings during the season.Here is a sampling of some things that may be
·Understand that some things
are out of your control: How Aunt Crabby responds this Christmas or New Year is
out of your control.
·Understand that some
things are in your control: How you respond to Aunt Crabby is within your
·Limit your time in
uncomfortable situations: If you are attending a gathering with a focus on
alcohol, limit your time to a brief appearance or better yet, limit the number
of events like these you will attend.
expectations: Perfection does not exist; no holiday can ever live up to
TV/Movie holiday specials.
·Define what the
holiday means to you: Embrace your traditions or other healthy routines.
·Focus on self-care:
Regular sleep, healthy eating, and exercise do wonders as well as awareness of
·No is a complete
sentence: You are an adult.You have the
option to say ‘no’ anytime without giving an excuse.
·Keep your recovery a
priority: Plan for cravings; log on to the WFS Forum or call someone from your
f2f group.A brief walk can separate you
long enough to clear your mind or use the healthy tactic of ‘think through the
What other tips are helpful for you?
Hi 4C Women,
Such great tips.I’m looking forward to learning more that we
can share with each other.We can put so
much pressure on ourselves to create the perfect holiday - perfect gifts,
perfect party, perfect decorations, perfect relationships - perfect, perfect,
perfect.Even the word is starting to
stress me out.What usually works best
for me is going back to the basics, being grateful for what I have, what I am
still able to do.I need to do this
because I tend to find myself experiencing the stress Karen described in her
message.I realize that when I find
myself going in that direction, it’s important to pause and take stock of what
blessings I have.This year in
particular has been extremely challenging and I have been blessed beyond
anything I can adequately express.The
support I have received from friends have made all the difference in the
world.This is what I focus on and to
know I am not alone is the greatest gift.I reflect on loved ones who are no longer here and while I feel quite
sad, I also am grateful to have had them in my life.Each has left me with love and lasting joy in
my heart.So this is my go to when I feel
overwhelmed - gratitude, blessings, basic abilities and the gift of loving,
giving, supportive friends.I guess you
could say it's a lot of positive self-talk and reaching out to others.
Lastly, keeping your recovery a priority
is everything.One of the women in our
group expressed it this way.“If I had
cancer and was doing chemo, would I say I wasn't going that day because of
another request or distraction?I look
at my recovery the same way.It comes