Tuesday, November 28, 2017

#GivingTuesday & Jean's Story of Hope


Today there will be millions of people around the world who will come together for one common purpose: to celebrate and encourage giving.  It is our intention to encourage you to join in and participate that is meaningful for you… something that you are passionate about, that you care about, that brings lasting joy and good feelings.
 
In the days leading up to #GivingTuesday, Women for Sobriety participated in sharing Stories of Hope from women who have found their hope for recovery renewed in the WFS New Life Program.  Through your donation, you can help WFS to continue giving that spark of hope, a glimmer of light when it becomes so very dark and lonely and scary when battling an addiction.  Your support for our services will reach women who feel there is no hope left for them.
 
You have the power in your very own hands to give the Gift of Sobriety. {CLICK HERE}
 
https://www.paypal.com/fundraiser/108133408063901813/search?keywords=Women+For+Sobriety+Inc&category=&state=
On this very special day of giving, we are sharing with you the story of hope from WFS’s founder, Jean Kirkpatrick… the woman who created a program that has given hope to millions of women that recovery is possible and they can achieve a new life, free from addictions.
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Between a Rock and a Hard Place 

I grabbed for the bottle and wanted a drink.  It can’t be!  I turned the bottle upside down and it was empty!  But how could that be?  I just opened it.  Well -- maybe it was a little while ago. 

Suddenly, I felt overwhelmed by rage.  This couldn’t be happening.  Jumping up I took the dining room chair I had been sitting on and smashed it against the wall.  It split into several pieces, so I took the other 3 chairs and smashed them too.  What a glorious feeling.  I looked around me and found more chairs, a bookcase, dishes, lamps, end tables, a TV set, wall pictures, a small kitchen radio, a wall clock -- I smashed them all.  Then I burst out crying and sat in the middle of the floor amidst the shambles of a once-furnished house now reduced to a pile of rubble. 

I was found there by a friend, a nurse, who got me to a hospital where the pills and booze began to wear off. 

But the house and the broken furniture were a picture of my life, which held within it, not a single thing that was unbroken....
 
 

The long days that followed were almost as nightmarish.  I was sick in mind and in soul.  I felt as if all my life were over and there was nothing whatever to live for.

Jean, Jean, Jean, Jean.  Why do you do it?  Why can’t you get it altogether?  Why is life such a big deal for you?  Why, why, why?

Lying in bed, coming face to face with the truth, again made me break out with perspiration.  I’m afraid; I’m scared of life, of people, of making it in this complex world.

I got through the gray day by staying glued to the TV set, afraid to move or think.  Oh, so afraid -- afraid of everything, every little noise, every silence, every moment of life.  I wrapped my arms around myself, trying to hold myself together, each moment an eternity.

Days passed and finally I knew I had to help myself, I had to do something.

My depression deepened and each moment seemed like a strand in the web of time, a web that held me captive.  My mind refused to stay in present day and I thought about my years in college, how happy I had been even though I was drinking.  Those memories reminded me of how happy and satisfied I felt during those years, the happiness and self-satisfaction I felt in learning new things every day. 

I jumped up and went to the bookcase to locate my Ralph Waldo Emerson.  Remembering how thrilled I was when first reading him, I spent the day reacquainting myself with transcendentalism.
 
 

 
It was a glorious day.  I felt ignited, as if a flame in me had been sparked and re-lit.  So many great thoughts -- that we are part of a great mind, that what we think creates our world.  And, oh, so much more!

In the days following I was led to Unity literature and this too enhanced my reading of Emerson.  I was changed.  What changed me were new thoughts, new ideas.  I saw the world differently and I saw my part in it differently.  I experienced hope.

All of this was not an overnight conversion, but it was the first excitement, the first hope that I had felt in years.  The days when I didn’t read were just as dull and bleak as those before it.  So I knew I had to keep reading, and that is what I did.  And from my reading, I put down a few thoughts and those thoughts eventually became the 13 Statement Program of WFS, the first self-help program for women.

Jean Kirkpatrick, Ph.D.
Founder, Women for Sobriety, Inc.
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Article: Read Jean’s article “A New Beginning”, by clicking HERE.
Online Support: Join our WFS Online Community!  Details HERE.
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Order the Newly Revised Program Booklet HERE
 
 
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The Program Booklet is now on KINDLE!
 

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Thank you for your gift of hope! 
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Monday, November 27, 2017

Monday Thoughts ~ Introducing...


Introducing…………

This is a very special edition of Monday Thoughts!

Today it is my pleasure to introduce our newly revised WFS Program Booklet which will be available on our website tomorrow, November 28, 2017, “Giving Tuesday.”  This has been over a year-long, passionate endeavor by the WFS Board of Directors.  Untold volunteer hours went into each page, with language brought up to date, cover stock and paper changes and an addition of bios with a dedication to preserve Jean’s vision.

Each Statement essay has been updated as well and now includes a “power closing” sentence.  This Program Booklet has quotes from two long time members of Women for Sobriety; Dee Waddington, previous WFS President and long-time Certified Moderator and Nancy Cross, who pioneered our WFS Online Forum, who sadly passed away in 2015. 

In the coming weeks, you will see these changes reflected in our literature as well as our website and online forum.  I thank you for your patience and continued support as we work to update each area, and as always, “We are capable and competent, caring and compassionate, always willing to help another, bonded together in overcoming our addictions.” (WFS Motto)

Hugzzz
Karen
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Hi 4C Women, 
       I was going to write after the Statements yet felt it important to end with them instead.  When I read each one and the subtle changes, they are as powerful today as they were back in 1988 when I first read them.  They are life lessons, guides and tools for positive change.  As I reflect on their impact in my life, I am incredibly grateful.  These 13 Statements helped me to find my voice, enhance the way I respond to situations and people and to ask for help even when I struggle with doing so.  I also have learned that when I am feeling discouraged, sad, disappointed or resentful, that these are feelings that need to be explored, not run away from with alcohol.  The best part is that I have learned to love myself, to sit in the pain with the support of others who understand without explanation, having the knowledge that I will survive and that invaluable life lessons will keep showing up.  I hope you are as excited about these changes as I am and enjoy the updated essays in the booklet.  The Program Booklet is definitely a must for your tool box in creating a “New Life” of positive change.  Love, Dee
 

WFS New Life Program Acceptance Statements 

#1       I have a life-threatening problem that once had me.
I now take charge of my life and my well-being. I accept the responsibility.

#2       Negative thoughts destroy only myself.
My first conscious sober act is to reduce negativity in my life.

#3       Happiness is a habit I am developing.
Happiness is created, not waited for.

#4       Problems bother me only to the degree I permit.
           
I now better understand my problems. I do not permit problems to overwhelm me.

#5       I am what I think.
I am a capable, competent, caring, compassionate woman. 

#6       Life can be ordinary or it can be great.
Greatness is mine by a conscious effort.

#7       Love can change the course of my world.
Caring is all-important.

#8       The fundamental object of life is emotional and spiritual growth.
Daily I put my life into a proper order, knowing which are the priorities.

#9       The past is gone forever.
No longer am I victimized by the past. I am a new woman.

#10    All love given returns.
I am learning to know that I am loved.

#11    Enthusiasm is my daily exercise.
I treasure the moments of my New Life. 

#12    I am a competent woman, and I have much to give life.
This is what I am, and I shall know it always. 

#13    I am responsible for myself and for my actions.
I am in charge of my mind, my thoughts, and my life. 

© WFS Inc. 2017

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Stories of Hope, #GivingTuesday in 1 Day


One More Day
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Removing Alcohol as an Option

I knew I had a LTP (life-threatening problem) for a very long time.  Denial wasn’t an issue for me.

Fortunately, when I made that decision, that life-changing decision - to remove alcohol from my life for good, to take it OFF the table as an option, I found WFS. 

When I first read our 13 Affirmation Statements, it was as if my life changed in a split second.  There they were - my fundamental beliefs - written out in a way that I could use and apply to my LTP.  I had never felt such a weight lifted from my shoulders.  Finally, there was a way for me to give up alcohol, without giving up myself. 

Now, 8.5 years later, I am a Certified Chat Leader and have been fortunate enough to make life-long friendships through the WFS Online program.  So if you are reading this and wondering if it can be done using ONLY the online program, my answer is a resounding YES.

This program literally saved my life.  Without going into detail, there is really no medical reason why I am still alive today, but I am.  And that is because I found and used our wonderful Affirmation Statements and became a member of the online community, both of which helped me through those oh-so-rough early months.

Legs
WFS Certified Chat Leader
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1st Article: Read the full article by Legs, by clicking HERE.
2nd Article: Members’ Reflect on the topic of SOBRIETY – click HERE.
Online Support: Join our WFS Online Community!  Details HERE.
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©      On Tuesday, November 28, 2017, charities, families, businesses, community centers and students around the world will come together for one common purpose: to celebrate and encourage giving. 

©      YOU are the most important part in making it a special day by choosing to #GiveHope to women around the world who are struggling with alcohol and drug addictions.

©      You have the power to #GiveTheGiftofSobriety with your financial contribution by supporting the self-help recovery program services provided by Women for Sobriety, Inc.; a nonprofit charitable organization.

©      ***Start a fundraiser on Facebook for #GivingTuesday on 11/28 and donations collected on that day will be DOUBLED by the Bill and Melinda Gates Foundation.  (Click “Start Fundraisers” in the left menu of your News Feed and select Women For Sobriety, Inc. as your charity.)*** 

©      In the following days leading up to #GivingTuesday, WFS will be sharing with you Stories of Hope from women who have found their hope for recovery renewed in the WFS New Life Program.
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© Women for Sobriety, Inc. | PO Box 618, Quakertown PA 18951
contact@womenforsobriety.org | Ph: 215-536-8026 | Fax: 215-538-9026
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Your Donations Help Support WFS’s Services.

Thank you for your gift of hope!

Sunday, November 26, 2017

Article ~ Statement #1


By “Legs”
WFS Certified Chat Leader

I knew I had a LTP (life-threatening problem) for a very long time.  Denial wasn’t an issue for me.  What WAS an issue is that before finding WFS (which ultimately saved my life) all I knew was the “other” program and way of thinking.  That other way of thinking went against everything I believed and held dear to myself.  It went against the very CORE of my being.  And it asked me to voluntarily give away power that had been involuntarily taken from me too many times before.  I simply couldn’t hand over my power again - especially not to something I didn’t believe in. 

Fortunately, when I made that decision, that life-changing decision - to remove alcohol from my life for good, to take it OFF the table as an option, I found WFS.  Like many, I googled something like “non-12 step women alcohol”.  And up popped Women For Sobriety. 

When I first read our 13 Affirmation Statements, it was as if my life changed in a split second.  There they were - my fundamental beliefs - written out in a way that I could use and apply to my LTP.  I had never felt such a weight lifted from my shoulders.  Finally, there was a way for me to give up alcohol, without giving up myself. 

Now, 8.5 years later, I am a Certified Chat Leader and have been fortunate enough to make life-long friendships through the WFS Online program.  So if you are reading this and wondering if it can be done using ONLY the online program, my answer is a resounding YES.  YES...but you have to be the one to do the work.  By that I mean posting and responding to posts, coming to the online chats, asking for help when you need it and, essentially, becoming a part of a worldwide community of strong women.

When asked “How did you do it?”, the answer is simple.  Simple, but not easy.  I removed alcohol as an option for ANYTHING.  I took it completely off the table as an option.  I had the power of choice.  Once one is no longer physically addicted to alcohol, resumption of drinking is always a choice.  Knowing that you are choosing NOT to drink is incredibly powerful and, for me, helped me avoid feelings of deprivation or rebellion that can occur when one is told she “can’t” do something.  Yes, I know that I cannot safely consume alcohol, but I CHOOSE not to even allow that to be an answer. 

This program literally saved my life.  Without going into detail, there is really no medical reason why I am still alive today, but I am.  And that is because I found and used our wonderful Affirmation Statements and became a member of the online community, both of which helped me through those oh-so-rough early months. 

If you are “on the fence” about quitting, I have a suggestion.  Try it on for a while.  Set a goal of 6 months and then after 6 months have passed, decide whether or not you like your new life.  I’m willing to bet that by that time, the joys of sobriety will have begun to show themselves and you can choose to go another 6 more.  And again and again and again.  Always remembering though, that what’s most important is making it through TODAY.  The choice is yours.  Choose wisely.
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© Women for Sobriety, Inc. | PO Box 618, Quakertown PA 18951
contact@womenforsobriety.org | Ph: 215-536-8026  | Fax: 215-538-9026
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Stories of Hope, #GivingTuesday in 2 Days




A few more days!
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I Have the Power to Change Things
 
Turning off (or at least dialing down) negative self-talk… sometimes it’s easier said than done.  Yet, it is another skill that takes time and patience. 
 
I had an issue come up that sent me back to listening to the old negative tapes in my head.  As I was wallowing in my negativity, it dawned on me that I have the power to change things.  I am a sober 4C woman and I have a blueprint for change right in front of me…the 13 Acceptance Statements. 
 
The mind is a powerful thing; it can elevate or crush our mood based on beliefs lurking behind our feelings.  Our thoughts are our choice…what we choose to have continually playing in our brains stay there until we make different choices. 
 
Lisa Farrar “lisa4r”
WFS Certified Chat Leader
Friday Night Chat Notes
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Article: Read Lisa’s Chat Notes on how to
Turn Off (or at least dial it down) Negative Self-Talk, by clicking HERE.
 
Online Support: Join our WFS Online Community!  Details HERE.
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©      On Tuesday, November 28, 2017, charities, families, businesses, community centers and students around the world will come together for one common purpose: to celebrate and encourage giving. 
 
©      YOU are the most important part in making it a special day by choosing to #GiveHope to women around the world who are struggling with alcohol and drug addictions. 
 
©      You have the power to #GiveTheGiftofSobriety with your financial contribution by supporting the self-help recovery program services provided by Women for Sobriety, Inc.; a nonprofit charitable organization.
 
©      ***Start a fundraiser on Facebook for #GivingTuesday on 11/28 and donations collected on that day will be DOUBLED by the Bill and Melinda Gates Foundation.  (Click “Start Fundraisers” in the left menu of your News Feed and select Women For Sobriety, Inc. as your charity.)***
 
In the following days leading up to #GivingTuesday, WFS will be sharing with you Stories of Hope from women who have found their hope for recovery renewed in the WFS New Life Program.
 

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© Women for Sobriety, Inc. | PO Box 618, Quakertown PA 18951
contact@womenforsobriety.org | Ph: 215-536-8026 | Fax: 215-538-9026
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Join our Email Service by clicking HERE or text your email address to WFSORG at 22828.
Daily Inspirations on Twitter: @WFS4C
Messages of Hope on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/womenforsobriety/
Your Donations Help Support WFS’s Services.
 
Thank you for your gift of hope!