Monday, August 28, 2017

Monday's Message ~ Statement #11

 


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 “Enthusiasm moves the world.”  -Arthur Balfour

“Passion is energy.  Feel the power that comes from focusing on what excites you.”  -Oprah Winfrey
 
“If you have enthusiasm, you have a very dynamic, effective companion to travel with you on the road to Somewhere.”  -Loretta Young

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Statement #11, “Enthusiasm is my daily exercise.”  I treasure all moments of my new life.
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        Statement #11 was difficult to practice early in sobriety.  I didn’t know how to feel much of anything, much less enthusiasm.  My emotions were flat, almost empty even.  Many times, I felt stuck in black and white while the world was exploding in vibrancy and color.  Was I missing something?  It was time to examine this blandness and discover life with colorful expression of emotion.
        In the past, alcohol provided false senses of enthusiasm.  What I thought was exciting was just drama in disguise.  Knowing that I had experienced enthusiasm as a child, I began to recall those past moments.  The thrill of opening a new box of 64 crayons, (with built in sharpener!) made many senses come alive.
        Today, walking into an independent art store brings out playfulness and enthusiasm.  This childhood activity helped to rediscover the world of enthusiasm, allowing me to reconnect to feelings and emotion.  Some moments are refrigerator worthy, while others are magnificent, museum masterpieces.  Building upon each colorful discovery, my senses are filled with enough treasured moments to last a lifetime.

Hugzzz
Karen

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Hi 4C Women,
        I, too, have struggled with enthusiasm.  I sometimes replace enthusiasm with the word “joy.”  I will say that I treasure “many” moments of my new life rather than all moments.  What I discovered is that I need to be aware of those moments in order to experience either enthusiasm or joyfulness.
        I understand and appreciate when Karen said she “reconnected” to the playfulness of childhood.  It helped me realize that one of my enthusiastic feelings is directly connected to childhood.  It occurs when I decorate my house for each season or holiday just as my parents did.  I am very sentimental and I can feel the joy within my heart as I unpack individual items and reminisce about who gave it to me as a gift or where I was when I bought it.  I can feel the biggest smile cross my face and when I am finished decorating; I walk around enjoying each and every item many times over.  Another feeling of enthusiasm is when I actually figure something out on the computer.  This doesn’t happen often so when it does, I am elated.  Enthusiasm can be felt in the ordinary, everyday moments as we create awareness/mindfulness.

·         Who brings joy to your life?  (This could be a person or pet.)
·         What brings a smile to your face?  (Close your eyes and imagine a person, place or thing.)
·         What helps restore your feeling of enthusiasm?  (A personal accomplishment, a new season with all its changes of color, fragrances, helping someone in need, giving a compliment to a stranger, someone reaching out to you, so many options!)
·         What was the most wonderful, fun or special thing that happened to you today, this week?
·         When was the last time you were spontaneous and it sparked a surge of enthusiasm?
·         Music evokes powerful emotions.  Have you ever played a song that lifted your spirits and ended up singing at the top of your lungs or dancing throughout the house?
·         How would you personally define enthusiasm? 

        These questions are to help you create awareness, to experience mindful enthusiasm.
        We are so fortunate to have WFS as a guide to teaching us how to treasure our New Life.  As we watch the news and the impact of flooding in Texas, I hope we appreciate and acknowledge the place we are in right now.  For some it may be day one and others, it may be years of sobriety.  The important thing is that we are 4C women and can share our compassion and caring for those who are struggling, whether it is in recovery from alcohol and drugs or the severe impact of Mother Nature.  We are bonded!  -WFS Member
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Wednesday, August 23, 2017

Friends of Recovery Newsletter Article


Pathways of Recovery: Women For Sobriety

Wonderful news from our friends at Friends of Recovery-New York... they shared information on our program in their August 2017 "Recovery Talk" Newsletter!  Many thanks to Susan at F.O.R. for reaching out and offering WFS this opportunity to talk about our services and organization.

Click HERE to read the article.

The photo above is from F.O.R.'s newsletter and it shows such hope and inspiration for a happy, healthy sober new life.  Onward!
~Becky Fenner, WFS Director

Tuesday, August 22, 2017

Monday's Message ~ Statement #7 & #10

 

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 “Love recognizes no barriers.  It jumps hurdles, leaps fences, penetrates walls to arrive at its destination full of hope.”  -Maya Angelou

“I think everyone should have the same anger towards the injustice that’s happening and the hatred that’s happening, and just fight it with love.”  -Ellen DeGeneres

“Darkness cannot drive out darkness; only light can do that.  Hate cannot drive out hate; only love can do that.”  -Martin Luther King, Jr.

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Statement #7, “Love can change the course of my world.”  Caring becomes all important.
Statement #10, “All love given returns.”  I will learn to know that others love me.
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        What our world is witnessing and experiencing recently can feel frightening and overwhelming.  From social media to television, the images and reports of hatred and indifference can give rise to fear and insecurity, which for some, can be a trigger.  Yet our world is also experiencing something even more powerful: love in action.
        Love is in the peaceful crowds, walking together in solidarity.  Love is in the open hand reaching out to help another, love is in the tender touch that soothes away pain and love is in the encouraging words that infuse light into darkness.  Love is highly visible as a 19-year-old woman named Imani helped opposing supporters navigate through a yelling crowd.  Instead of raising her voice, she raised herself and responded with love.
        Love is a way of living that builds upon itself, growing in strength, changing the course of our world.  We can reach for love and strengthen our foundation instead of reaching for judgment.  Inviting depth and meaning to conversation with open listening can replace the superficial.  Mindfulness and doing what is possible can replace ignorance and apathy.
        WFS exists because of love.  In our Program Booklet, Jean Kirkpatrick writes, “We are women reaching out to others by way of our new self-awareness, which tells us that we are amply capable of giving love and also able to receive it.”  Hugzzz and with love, Karen
 
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Hi 4C Women,
 
I learned that loving myself was how I was able to let go of my fear of rejection.  Years ago, before sobriety, I was an extreme people-pleaser and yearned for acceptance and respect, yet I didn’t have those feelings of worth for myself.
 
Through therapy and sobriety, I finally realized that the most important relationship was the one I had with myself.  From that point on, it became easier to open up to receiving love because I had finally given it to myself.  As a young girl, it seemed conceited, wrong and awkward to say I needed to love myself.  Thank goodness I learned how untrue this type of thinking was and became my own best friend.
 
My only measure of love was the romantic kind, having to be “in” love.  Having only one measure of love to fill up my empty love tank really hindered my awareness of the love that surrounded me.  As I have gained emotional growth, I know that there are many types of loving relationships that can include family, friends, neighbors, co-workers, WFS sisters - the list is endless.  Not being a people-pleaser any more, I spend my time and energy nurturing loving relationships rather than working hard at getting people to love me or even like me.  And there is a big difference between people-pleasing to be loved and caring about others, doing for them out of that bonded relationship.
 
Love yourself, love others, free yourself from the fear of rejection, learn to trust yourself and others and let that be the way to fill your heart, your soul and your spirit.  -WFS Member
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Monday, August 14, 2017

Monday's Message ~ Statement #12




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 “To know one’s own limitations is the hallmark of competence.”  -Dorothy L. Sayers 

“Everybody’s got a different circle of competence.  The important thing is not how big the circle is.  The important thing is staying inside the circle.”  -Warren Buffet

“We must believe in ourselves or no one will believe in us; we must match our aspirations with the competence, courage and determination to succeed.”  -Rosalyn Yalow 

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Statement #12, “I am a competent woman and have much to give life.”
This is what I am and I shall know it always.
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        Reflecting on Statement #12, it is enlightening to uncover this journey of competence in my New Life.  What I have observed is every single day sober is a demonstration of competence; by not doing this one thing every day I open the door to competence and accomplishment.
        Alcohol removed the ability to recognize and feel competence.  So often setting a time or setting limits with alcohol were quickly abandoned, which in turn severed any feelings of competence or ability.  Compounding these feelings of failure daily resulted in overwhelming feelings of self-doubt.  I no longer felt capable of doing anything.  Even the smallest of tasks seemed insurmountable.
        Statement #12 encourages each woman to continually build frameworks of ability and awareness.  This started my first day sober and continues into this current moment.  With each new day, I began erasing feelings of failure and applying a fresh coat of competence.  Compounding these feelings from the practice of Statement #12 results in the ability to understand and grow competence, while instilling awareness that I can ask for help at any time.
Hugzzz, Karen

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Hi 4C Women,

Many women find it challenging to introduce themselves as a competent woman when first attending WFS meetings.  I initially felt that way.  However, I also began to understand that the more I said it, the more I began believing it.  I had this strong need to prove that underneath all of my fears that I could change those old negative messages of who I “thought” I was.  The more I practiced taking risks, trusting that I would survive, learning and growing into a competent woman, the more comfortable I began to feel in trusting my choices.  Fear and trust – overcoming and becoming.

I would encourage you to take a risk or two and examine the outcome with an open mind.  Perhaps it didn’t work out as you had hoped yet there is much to learn from trying.  That is how I feel competence begins to grow.  You try, you learn, make more informed choices next time and, mostly, appreciate and acknowledge the strong effort you made in becoming that competent woman.  It’s that trial and error method that informs us and builds a strong foundation of courage, insight and believing in your own personal strengths.

·         What are you willing to risk to gain this knowledge and belief in yourself?
·         What did you learn from your previous decision?
·         How will you use that information to build your competency?
·         Do you recognize the strength in seeking help and actually reach out for it?
·         Do you acknowledge your victories in gaining competency?
 
We need to be our own best cheerleaders for this is how we build that positive definition of who we are and are becoming – 4C women indeed!  -WFS Member
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Wednesday, August 9, 2017

WFS Beginner's Special


Beginners Special Bundle
  

Special Package To Start

Your “New Life” Journey Into Recovery



 
Retail Price: $35.95

Sale Price: $30.75


REVIEWS - What Members Have to Say:
 
Doris: Like a lot of women before me, I lurked on the online forum message boards for a while before I ever ordered the Beginner’s Special.  When I got it, I didn’t do anything with it right away.  However, what a difference it made in my journey when I actually read the material and listened to the tape [CD].  I carry Jean’s tape with me and listen to it when I’m walking.  I can relate to a lot of her thoughts, and hearing her actual voice has meant a lot to me.  I feel like she’s talking just to me.  I can’t stress enough to anyone who thinks they’re using this program by just using the online forum...the message boards are not the program.  Order the Beginner’s Special.  It will make a huge difference in your sobriety journey and it may mean the difference between staying sober and drinking.

Ruth Ann: When I received my Beginner’s Special in the mail, I read everything cover to cover.  It took me, unfortunately, another 7 months to stop drinking.  I have a wine glass stain on the front cover of Turnabout.  I use to think how awful this was, drinking and reading at the same time… can I do this?  I woke up once with the book stuck to my chest.  Something, of course, was sinking in.  The words are powerful, and I realize now it was part of the process.

TeddyBear: The Beginner’s Special is a “SPECIAL PACKAGE TO START YOUR “NEW LIFE” JOURNEY INTO RECOVERY.”  It took me several reads of the material to finally start to absorb it.  I think that is because my brain was pickled.  It took me another 3½ months to put it into continuous practice.  There would be a week, then several weeks, then a month and then things really started rolling and I am not going back.  I keep the Beginner’s Booklet and the Program Booklet in my journal.  I refer to them often.  I know that, at some point, I will probably buy new copies.  This is a wonderful gift to give yourself or someone you know who is struggling.  It is a life saver!

Shirley: If you have never ordered anything from the WFS catalog, this is a great start.  It’s loaded with information about the program.  It gives you encouragement, especially on the difficult days when the “imp” [impulse] is breathing over your shoulder.  I know I spent many hours reading Jean’s literature, listening to the tape [CD] until I knew it almost word for word.

Dougal: I was at my personal rock bottom and it seemed like it took forever for it to arrive.  I was lurking on the online message boards, of course, and that’s how I joined WFS and finally got that Beginner’s Special.  For me, I swear it was like honey to a starving bee.  The book Turnabout was terribly hard to read because it was so graphic in its description of what alcohol can do to a body and soul.  The Beginner’s package is the first ray of hope.  It’s priceless and, even if you don’t or can’t use it right away or even if you can’t read all of it or think it is silly or whatever at first; don’t give up on it.  It will change your life.

Toots: The Beginner’s Special was the first thing I ordered when I joined Women for Sobriety.  I’d heard about it from members of the online forum.  The items included in the Beginner’s Special provided me with the information I needed to get better acquainted with the WFS “New Life” Program and overall philosophy of Women for Sobriety.  Sure is a great bargain to boot!

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Monday, August 7, 2017

Monday's Message ~ Statement #8





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“Between stimulus and response there is a space.  In that space is our power to choose our response.  In our response lies our growth and our freedom.”  -Viktor E. Frankl

“The key to growth is the introduction of higher dimensions of consciousness into our awareness.”
-Lao Tzu

“I always feel that until you take your last breath, you’re always growing.”  -Oprah Winfrey

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Statement #8, “The fundamental object of life is emotional and spiritual growth.”
Daily I put my life into a proper order, knowing which are the priorities.
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        The WFS Program, most notably Statement #8, have provided the opportunity for understanding life with fresh perspective.  In the past, given a set of guidelines to assist with growth only sent me spiraling in the opposite direction.  I felt a failure even before starting and so often felt “what’s the use?” or “I’m too far gone.”  Understanding growth to be the object of life, I felt an incredible shift in perspective.
        An example of growth in my New Life can best be summed up from a recent experience.  Flying north for the wedding of my sister last week, upon arrival, I realized the beautiful dress purchased for this blessed event was back in a hotel room.  Panic instantly arose, with other distressing emotions coming swiftly, filling my body with anxiety and anger yet, curiously, these feelings didn’t last long.  Without warning, a feeling of calm arose with the realization that I could spend the afternoon shopping with the bride to be, my daughter and sister in law.  What was an initially, difficult circumstance quickly turned into a delightful opportunity.
        Before sobriety and New Life, the reaction would have been intense and dramatic.  My victim-stance would have been shared across every social platform while secretly basking in all the attention.  Playing on the emotions of others and dragging down the joyous event would have taken high priority (consciously or not).  But this did not happen.  Instead, I shared in a fun (and silly) shopping excursion with family.  Sobriety and Statement #8 in action assisted in developing a different perspective on this wedding weekend.  The stark contrast in before and after reactions is evidence of how effective and rewarding Statement #8 can be when practiced and embraced.

Are you aware of growth in your New Life?  Priorities?
How does this feel for you?

Hugzzz,
Karen 

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Hi 4C Women,

I give Karen a lot of credit for taking that stance in her situation.  It is a great example of how we put the Statements into action.  Her openness in sharing how she would have reacted in the past was quite refreshing and very insightful.  As I read it, I saw myself in years past - the victim, the need for attention and not giving serious consideration to the impact my words, my behavior had on others.  I didn’t care because I was very needy.  Learning to fulfill my needs, to even know my needs, was an important and necessary part of my emotional growth journey.  I learned that expecting others to fulfill all my needs placed a great burden and strain on my relationships.  I also learned the difference between seeking support and expecting others to rescue me or at least listen endlessly to my drama with no change in sight. 

What all of this soul-searching led to was:
·         A much greater awareness of what my needs were/are and that they change over time.
·         Discovering various ways to meet those needs and following through on doing so.  This is critical.  While having insight is great, without action things will remain the same and Statement 8 is all about “growth”.
·         Awareness to stop myself when I realized I was creating unnecessary drama.  This was a challenging habit to break yet absolutely crucial in moving forward.
·         Became a better listener which makes me laugh sometimes as I am sure those whose ears I bent were grateful for this change!
·         Problem-solver, decision-maker.  Now that was huge since I never really wanted to change, I just wanted people to feel sorry for me and I honestly didn’t want their advice because that goes back to me changing. 

The biggest reward for putting Statement 8 into action is FREEDOM.  I am now free to explore, uncover, discover, say no, say yes, be a lot more compassionate, authentically connected to others, definitely competent whether I make a mistake in my decision-making, appreciate and value the support and input of others because I am truly listening which helps in my problem-solving.  This list of rewards is endless and I am so grateful for WFS guiding me in such a positive, healthy direction.

«  What are your rewards?
«  What changes have you made in following through on the action part of Statement 8?
«  What are your needs?
-WFS Member
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