Sunday, July 30, 2017

Monday's Message ~ Statement #5

 


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 “The game of life is the game of boomerangs.  Our thoughts, deeds and words return to us sooner or later, with astounding accuracy.”  -Florence Shinn

“You are today where your thoughts have brought you; you will be tomorrow where your thoughts take you.”  -James Allen

“Thinking is easy, acting is difficult, and to put one’s thoughts into action is the most difficult thing in the world.”  -Goethe

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Statement #5, “I am what I think.”
I am a capable, competent, caring, compassionate woman.
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        Long before I had ever heard of WFS, I began to practice Statement #5.  Where or when this happened is not as important as the fact that it happened.  Thoughts of sobriety slowly began to enter my mind, and while these initial thoughts brought about anxiety and deep fear, they also brought an inkling of relief.  This was the beginning and first glimpse of sobriety and a beautiful new way of life.
        Statement #5 in action provides a portal for possibility.  No matter the thought, action can sprout from within, just as Jean Kirkpatrick states in our Program Booklet:  “First the thought, then the reality.”  Sobriety and recovery grows and flourishes with thoughts that are tended to in a 4C garden.  When this soil is enhanced with such nutrients as caring and compassion, a foundation for unlimited growth is unearthed.
        Tending to this fresh and bountiful garden requires daily effort; planting seeds of joy, balance and independence, managing those pesky negative or doubtful weeds when they crop up and gently watering the blossoming bed with life sustaining love, produce a variety of continuing growth and flowering moments that are available to harvest for a lifetime.
How do you tend to your growing garden of recovery?
Hugzzz,
Karen

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Hi 4C Women,
        This morning the message in my church was on joy and contentment.  As I sat there, I thought about how much my life was changed because of the WFS program.  It is through the Statements that I learned to build a much needed foundation of peace and contentment.  As we all know, sobriety/being clean is not a promise of a perfect life, far from it.  What it gives us is the opportunity to practice being a 4C woman.  We have challenges, wonderful moments, scary moments, sadness and joy and through it all, we need to work on personal and emotional growth.  As we do this, it becomes clear that this is hard work yet so rewarding.  I can say that my identity, self-perception, and the words I used to describe myself in the past were cruel, negative and untrue.  I took over for all those people who bullied me, criticized me and broke my spirit.  It’s known by many as the Inner Critic, the one who is eager to point out each mistake and wrong choices to confirm the long ago held negative opinion of ourselves.  It also acts as a protector of sorts.  If I believe the Inner Critic’s negative definition of me, i.e., you’re not smart enough, then it has prepared me for rejection.  It lessens the fear because I am prepared and expecting it.  If I don’t feel like a 4C Woman, I won’t have to deal with the painful feelings that “might” occur.  Believing the Inner Critic assures that emotional growth and positive change will not take place.
        Statement 9 comes to mind whenever I think of the Inner Critic.  He holds onto the past to victimize us and that is his joy.  This is why Statement 5 is so important to practice, to believe, for it is how we learn to believe in ourselves, build our self-esteem, to develop a truthful, accurate definition of who we are TODAY!  We know that if we make mistakes, it cannot destroy our identity.  A mistake is a life lesson not a lifelong curse to keep us down.
        The last words on the screen as the service ended today spoke to me, “It never gets easier, you just get better.”  I mentioned this a few weeks ago that I thought life would be so much easier at my age but this is not the case.  I have learned to handle the challenges better because I am a 4C woman, thanks to the guidance of WFS and my commitment to change - my thoughts and my actions.   -WFS Member

List what you are…
·         Capable of:
·         Competent in:
·         Caring about:
·         Compassionate about:
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Thursday, July 27, 2017

WFS Fundraising Auction on EBAY!



 
How can I participate?
 

  • THIS WILL BE A PUBLIC AUCTION. Invite your family, friends, neighbors, co-workers, artists, crafters, shop owners... everyone can get involved!
  • WHEN? Starting Friday, October 6 and Ending on Sunday, October 15, 2017
  • HOW DO I PARTICIPATE? If you have an eBay account and have items to list and sell - CLICK HERE and Learn More about Selling for Charity - we hope you choose 100% of the auction proceeds on your item(s) to donate to WFS! Post your items on October 6 and end the bidding on the 15th.

  • If you don't have an eBay account, we hope you'll consider creating one so you can directly participate in all the excitement of this fundraising auction for WFS!
  • If you're not interested in eBay but would like to contribute an auction item, please contact the WFS office for instructions. WE WELCOME YOUR SUPPORT!
  • The WFS Office will also be posting items for auction through their eBay account, as well as 'Buy it Now' options (you don't want to miss this!!).
  • REMEMBER: DESIGNATE 100% PROCEEDS TO WFS
  • CHECK THIS LINK EVERY DAY OF THE AUCTION FOR NEW ITEMS AND TO WATCH YOU DON'T GET OUTBID BEFORE THE AUCTION ENDS!

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Saturday, July 22, 2017

Monday's Message ~ Statement #13





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“You cannot escape the responsibility of tomorrow by evading it today.”  -Abraham Lincoln

“Responsibility to yourself means refusing to let others do your thinking, talking, and naming for you; it means learning to respect and use your own brains and instincts; hence, grappling with hard work."  –Adrienne Rich 

“The knowledge that we are responsible for our actions and attitudes does not need to be discouraging, because it also means that we free to change this destiny.  One is not in bondage to the past, which has shaped our feelings, to race, inheritance, background.  All this can be altered if we have the courage to examine how it formed us.  We can alter the chemistry provided we have the courage to dissect the elements.”  Anais Nin 

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Statement #13, “I am responsible for myself and for my actions.”
I am in charge of my mind, my thoughts, and my life.
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        Recently, feelings of being overwhelmed have been bringing anxiety to light.  The desire to escape has entered my mind with feelings of uncertainty (fear) and being stuck taking hold.  While I have been unaware of a conscious desire to drink, the thought of running away is a big, red warning sign.  This is an indicator of imbalance which calls for immediate action and change.  Responsibility in action is key here.
        Statement #13 in daily development provides the path for continued sobriety and recovery with an eye towards tomorrow and beyond.  Speaking with a dear friend who understands this journey, has helped immensely and has allowed me to see things from a different and clearer perspective.  Prioritizing and planning, increasing my meditation practice and reorganization has helped to center thoughts and reduce anxiety.  Writing in a journal has also been a trusted avenue for responsibility and awareness.
        Oftentimes in recovery it can be easy to adopt a laid-back attitude which, when left unattended, can lead towards excess and negativity.  Excessive thoughts and lack of direction are not helpful and can be an instigator for negativity.  In our Program Booklet, Jean boldly states, “So long as we have just one single negative thought, we stand to lose our sobriety and we will always be off-balance with ourselves.”  By paying attention to thoughts and subsequent feelings, I can circumvent a negative spiral and respond with growing ability.  Sobriety and recovery using the WFS Statements of Affirmation is not some high-speed chase to an impending finish line, but rather an ebb and flow odyssey of magnanimous proportion.
Hugzzz,
Karen

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Hi 4C Women,
        I truly relate to Karen’s message.  As many of you know from my writings, I have been the caretaker for my daughter for several months.  It was becoming emotionally overwhelming and I started having those red flag negative thoughts.  What helped me was voicing my feelings, receiving compassion and understanding rather than judgment.  This is what WFS has done for me.  It helped me to learn to be responsible for my actions, for my decisions and it also provided a safe place to seek support.  It is harmful for my emotional well-being to isolate, keep my feelings hidden and hang on with clenched fists when all I need to do is say, “I need help.”  There is such great strength in asking for and receiving what we need to work through life’s challenges - and trust me, there will always be challenges.  This is why creating healthy coping tools, reaching out when needed and building that strong, solid foundation of resiliency is the key to remaining sober and clean.  It is so much more than not drinking or using.  It is what building resilience is all about.
        I just read an article in AARP (yes, I am well past the 50 years of age requirement) about building resiliency.  The author thought that resiliency was the capacity to endure pain.  She learned that resiliency is the strength and speed of our response to adversity.
        Hardships and traumatic events happen to all of us and are not evenly distributed.  Recovery does not start from the same place for everyone.  This is another aspect of WFS that I value, that we do not compare our histories or current situations because what matters is how all of that is impacting our personal lives.  Comparing one’s suffering over another’s can be risky.  We do not live other people’s lives.  We are in charge of how we solve and work on our own situations, seek guidance or input and offer that compassion so needed by each one of us no matter how small or large the issue.  We are bonded by that gift of giving and receiving without judgment.
        And lastly, please remember to put balance in your life.  If you are feeling so stressed that negative thoughts start becoming the prominent thoughts, it’s time to see how you are nurturing yourself.  It was the support of a friend in my WFS group and the meal team at my church that made it possible for me to go to the WFS conference and to go on to visit my family and friends in PA and NJ.  I fearfully asked for much needed help and I abundantly received!
·         What are your coping tools for handling adversity?
·         What do you do to nurture yourself?
·         When is the last time you asked for help?
·         How do you practice being in charge of your mind, thoughts and life?
-WFS Member
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Monday, July 10, 2017

Amazon Prime Day - Support WFS!

When you #StartWithaSmile on #PrimeDay,
Amazon donates to Women For Sobriety Inc.
 
Shop for great deals at smile.amazon.com/ch/23-1972763


Amazon Prime Day starts tonight at 9 PM Eastern
and lasts through Tuesday, July 11th!

Monday's Message ~ Statement #2


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“No one can create negativity or stress within you.  Only you can do that by virtue of how you process your world.”  -Wayne Dyer 
 
“Peace.  It does not mean to be in a place where there is no noise, trouble, or hard work, it means to be in the midst of those things and still be calm in your heart.”  -Unknown

“Our overcoming is in the exact proportion to our becoming.”
-Jean Kirkpatrick, Ph.D., WFS Program Booklet

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Statement #2, “Negative thoughts destroy only myself.”
My first conscious sober act must be to remove negativity from my life.
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        Before my New Life, unawareness of negative expression went unquestioned.  Outbursts, such as shouting matches or heated arguments were a normal occurrence.  Fueled by alcohol, I bounced from one drama to another trying to avoid any silence and boredom.  This created disastrous results in the form of emotional pain, strained relationships and deep depression.
        Sobriety and Statement #2 provide a gateway for growth and expansion.  Instead of running away from negative feelings or situations, I can sit with the discomfort, knowing that it is temporary.  Practicing this Statement has brought to conclusion many, unending distresses and provides a source of confidence as another pinnacle is reached.
        The attainment of balance from employing Statement #2 is one of the most rewarding aspects of sobriety and recovery.  With this umbrella of awareness, I am able to understand and embrace feelings while creating and maintaining stability.  Standing on this balanced platform, silence and boredom are welcomed with open arms while enjoying this fresh and exciting, new perspective.
Hugzzz, Karen

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Hi 4C Women,
        Negative thoughts at one time destroyed my self-confidence, self-esteem and self-love.  It was difficult to love myself when negative thoughts were the core of my identity, including my extreme negative outlook on life.
        I think I relate most to the quote, “Peace.  It does not mean to be in a place where there is no noise, trouble, or hard work, it means to be in the midst of those things and still be calm in your heart.”  I still have feelings of anger, frustration and sadness yet my foundation is that peace, that positive possibility and my willingness to handle it.  When I feel negativity coming on, I have learned to express it.  Some people may call it venting.  For me, it’s reaching out in a safe place, a safe person who is willing to listen and it’s amazing how just doing that takes away the long-staying power of negativity, which is how my life used to be.  I’m not fearful of expressing myself for it releases a lot of anxiety and it’s amazing how others can offer wonderful input based on their life experience.  Just as we are not alone in working on our sobriety, we are not alone when needing help, a shoulder to cry on, a friendly voice to calm us.
        WFS provides the tools for obtaining and maintaining sobriety.  It also provides a safe place to seek and ask for help.  It is not easy to ask for help yet this past year especially has shown me what a difference it makes to take this risk.  My feeling is that if I don’t walk this journey alone, why would I be resistant to asking for help when I need it.  In order to have your first conscious sober act be to remove negativity from your life, seek help in understanding how you can do this.  It doesn’t mean you don’t have these feelings, it means you are seeking ways of handling them and releasing them from becoming a powerful force in hurting yourself and harming your relationships.  It’s all about balance.  As you acknowledge negativity and find positive ways to work through it, you learn trust… trusting yourself and others.

If you are resistant to seeking help, perhaps it’s time to ask:
 
·         What your greatest fear is in doing so?  Rejection, appearing weak?
·         Do you trust yourself enough to trust others?
·         Where is your safe place?
·         Are you able to recognize and acknowledge negative thoughts?
·         Are they actually related to a current situation or an old message that distracts you from working through the “now”?
-WFS Member
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Tuesday, July 4, 2017

July 2017 Reflections

Excerpts from the July “Reflections For Growth” Booklet by Jean Kirkpatrick, Ph.D. 

Spirituality
July 2
    The beauty of a flower – a daisy, a rose, a bouquet – displays the Intricate Hand of Creation
    Who is not moved by this beauty, this perfection?
    Today I shall be attuned to the beauty surrounding me and I will know closeness to the Universal One.
Trust
July 6
    Did you ever say to someone, “I trust you” and then wonder if you really did trust that person?
    That has happened to me, although not recently.  But the moment I say, “I trust you” I feel very vulnerable.
    Today I will be more trusting of myself and my emotions.
Rejection
July 12
    When we are turned down, or overlooked, or passed over, we are rejected.
    Feelings of rejection are almost as common as feelings of loneliness and depression.  They are certainly just as devastating.
    Today I will make a large effort to see the love others feel for me and will get rid of the feelings of rejection I sometimes know.
Love
July 24
    Without love, life is merely an exercise in existence.
    We were made to love – to give and receive it and, when we don’t, we are like robots moving from one lifeless experience to another.
    Today I will express love for others.
Depression
July 28
    A well-developed sense of my self and my individual self-worth provides me with the first building block in overcoming my depression.
    How can I feel depressed, unloved, neglected if I can see myself as a fully developing, wonderful woman.

[Thank you, “EmbraceLife”, for choosing this month’s reflections!]

Women for Sobriety’s Motto

“We are Capable and Competent, Caring and Compassionate, always willing to help another; bonded together in overcoming our addictions.”
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