Monday, March 13, 2017

Monday's Message ~ Statement #5

“With the new day comes new strength and new thoughts.”  -Eleanor Roosevelt

“A single footstep will not make a path on this earth, so a single thought will not make a pathway in the mind.  To make a deep physical path, we walk again and again.  To make a deep mental path, we must think over and over the kind of thoughts we wish to dominate our lives.”  -Henry David Thoreau

“Keep your thoughts positive because your thoughts become your words.  Keep your words positive because your words become your behavior.  Keep your behavior positive because your behavior becomes your habits.  Keep your habits positive because your habits become your values.  Keep your values positive because your values become your destiny.”  -Mahatma Gandhi

Statement #5, “I am what I think.”
I am a capable, competent, caring, compassionate woman.
+ Karen’s Perspective +
        Before sobriety and my New Life, I was unconscious of my thinking.  In fact, I often did most of my thinking after an experience.  I went straight into knee-jerk reaction before thinking about any effects, which then intensified my thinking and I felt bad afterwards.  This was a habit that started early in my life and with the addition of alcohol, aggravated the entire process.  This was an emotionally difficult way to live.
        Statement #5 assists me with managing my thoughts and the ability to focus.  In sobriety and recovery, now I can think, react and feel.  This process allows me to pause, make informed decisions and feel a sense of contentment afterwards.  It is a satisfying way to live since I can embrace results instead of trying to escape them.  Even if a desired outcome is not reached, I have learned something valuable from the experience.
        The more I manage my thoughts and practice pausing, such as with meditation, journaling, or simply being out in nature, the better I can manage my thoughts.  I am no longer ruled by rampant, repetitive thoughts.  I feel a sense of calm today and my mind is clearer which opens a portal for depth, understanding and clarity.  Hugzzz, Karen

+  Member Insights  +
Hi 4C Women,
        I recently was at a meeting where we had to finish a number of “I am and I am a” sentences.  I realized how automatic it was to think positively and this was brought to light when another person struggled and only had negative words to describe themselves.  This is what WFS has taught me.  Years ago, I would have been the person writing negative definitions of me - I am a worrier, I am worthless, unlovable, invisible, inadequate, stupid.  That list was so easy to complete back then.  I could rattle off the negatives as easily as I could brush my teeth.  In other words, second nature.  This is how I know in my heart that we are all capable of change.  The key is to be willing to change and then to practice!  Knowing is one thing, practicing is the answer to authentic change.
        I think that when change begins, the fact that not everything goes as we hoped, it can reignite the negative self-talk, i.e., if I was smarter, adequate enough, it would have worked out just as I hoped/expected it would.  This kind of thinking can be extremely detrimental to our sobriety.  It’s as though that thought gives us the go ahead to drink/drug because we screwed up anyway.  I see it as the time to be even more focused on our sobriety, insistent on learning, growing and working through the outcome.  After all, if we are what we think, it needs to be seen on the outside because we are working through it on the inside.  I see us as pioneers showing what can be done no matter what the result.  We are truly the strongest women because we can express our feelings, our fears, our concerns and work through them not collapse because of them.  It is hard work and yet so rewarding.  Sobriety is priceless.  It can’t be bought but it can be had with living the 13 WFS Statements.

·         How would you define/describe yourself?
·         How do you respond to an unexpected or disappointing outcome?
·         What is the first thought that comes into your mind?
·         How do you handle any thought of drinking/drugs?
·         What are your plans to be sure you keep on track?
--WFS Member
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1 comment:

  1. Hello, I'm jaymee. I'm new to WFS but not new to recovery. Recently I've been branching out to different recovery Pathways. In doing so, I've pushed away from my 12-Step bubble. I feel deceived in a sense, for they told me there was only one way to recover, and I'm quickly finding out that is simply not true. Nevertheless, I'm feeling restless, irratable and discontent bc my addiction is going untreated. I know I need to share. I know I need peer support. My thoughts have been hella negative this week and I'm glad I read this post. I only wish there were some WFS meetings in my area. I suppose I'll have to start one.