Women for Sobriety, Inc. is a non-profit organization dedicated to helping women overcome alcohol and drug addictions. It is, in fact, the first national self-help recovery program for women. The WFS New Life Program helps women achieve sobriety and sustain ongoing recovery. WFS has been providing services since July 1975. This blog has been created to share news, events, and encouragement to those interested in the organization and the program.
Monday, March 6, 2017
Monday's Message ~ Statement #1
I No Longer Reinforce Doubt
can only find Heaven by slowly backing away from Hell.”-Carrie Fisher
“I have learned
over the years that when one’s mind is made up, this diminishes fear.”-Rosa Parks
“In the midst of
winter, I found there was, within me, an invincible summer.And that makes me happy.For it says that no matter how hard the world
pushes against me, within me, there’s something stronger – something better,
pushing right back.”-Albert Camus
of the things that I told myself often before sobriety and my New Life was that
I would fail even before I began.I
reinforced this doubt every day with a drink; it didn’t matter which came
first, the doubt, or the drink, the results were always the same.Negative thoughts ruled my mind with a goal
each day to escape into nothingness, but I almost escaped myself into
and Statement #1 are the foundation of my sobriety and recovery.I know where I have been.I know how it felt to be under the influence,
and today I know that I do not want to ever go back to living, or, rather, existing that way ever again.Statement #1 is the foundation of my
recovery, while the other remaining twelve Statements create the framework for
my New Life.
days I no longer reinforce doubt, instead I rely on the ability to encourage
and take charge of my life.I understand
Kirkpatrick meant when she remarked that she had no desire to drink
anymore.For a long time, I didn’t think
it was possible.I get it now.This journey is far more exciting and
meaningful, filled with connection, joy, contentment and love.Hugzzz,
Hi 4C Women,
I completely relate
to Rosa Parks quote.It seems most of my
fear is entangled in the decision-making.Will I make a mistake?Do I have
all the facts and studied the pros and cons properly and thoroughly?Will I be able to handle the fall-out if my
decision turns out to be a mistake or is that negative thinking really an
excuse to cope with my fears by drinking or drugging it away?As Rosa Parks’ quote states, these fears
appear to dissipate once I make the decision.I can tell I have truly made a decision based on the fear factor.It’s like the decision to quit drinking - do
I really have a problem, will it hurt if I wait a bit longer, am I willing to
work hard at my emotional sobriety?Back
and forth with my yes and no.I actually
realized I made the decision when those questions weren’t as loud in my head as
the joy of creating a New Life of freedom and empowerment.
remember the moment you made “the” decision?If you are struggling with the fear factor, what is the greatest fear?
As I read through
Karen’s message, I was struck by how uncovering, discovering and understanding
our feelings are at the heart of WFS.I
love and appreciate that we do not need to share our war stories.I know them well enough.I also know I “can” share if I chose to, if
it helps me move forward in my emotional growth or in facing another major
challenge.After all these years, I am
grateful to still be learning from others, from their successes and their
mistakes along with my own.
Throughout life, we
are teachers and students, sometimes all in the same conversation!It is the working through of that situation
and that person which might require a bit of background info so we can be
helpful to each other.Rather than
repeat drinking/drug stories that can be hurtful to building our self-esteem,
we share feelings about the situation.There
may be a story intertwined but it is not the major scene. Can’t change what happened so our focus is on
how to handle this differently than we would have in the past, to get input
from those who might have had a similar situation.
WFS is not a place
for “should” but a place for compassion, understanding and support.This is how empowerment grows by sharing
experiences and providing ideas for a woman to choose “if” that might work for
your favorite part of the WFS program at this time?Why?
you experienced being the teacher and the student?