Monday, July 10, 2017

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Monday's Message ~ Statement #2


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“No one can create negativity or stress within you.  Only you can do that by virtue of how you process your world.”  -Wayne Dyer 
 
“Peace.  It does not mean to be in a place where there is no noise, trouble, or hard work, it means to be in the midst of those things and still be calm in your heart.”  -Unknown

“Our overcoming is in the exact proportion to our becoming.”
-Jean Kirkpatrick, Ph.D., WFS Program Booklet

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Statement #2, “Negative thoughts destroy only myself.”
My first conscious sober act must be to remove negativity from my life.
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        Before my New Life, unawareness of negative expression went unquestioned.  Outbursts, such as shouting matches or heated arguments were a normal occurrence.  Fueled by alcohol, I bounced from one drama to another trying to avoid any silence and boredom.  This created disastrous results in the form of emotional pain, strained relationships and deep depression.
        Sobriety and Statement #2 provide a gateway for growth and expansion.  Instead of running away from negative feelings or situations, I can sit with the discomfort, knowing that it is temporary.  Practicing this Statement has brought to conclusion many, unending distresses and provides a source of confidence as another pinnacle is reached.
        The attainment of balance from employing Statement #2 is one of the most rewarding aspects of sobriety and recovery.  With this umbrella of awareness, I am able to understand and embrace feelings while creating and maintaining stability.  Standing on this balanced platform, silence and boredom are welcomed with open arms while enjoying this fresh and exciting, new perspective.
Hugzzz, Karen

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Hi 4C Women,
        Negative thoughts at one time destroyed my self-confidence, self-esteem and self-love.  It was difficult to love myself when negative thoughts were the core of my identity, including my extreme negative outlook on life.
        I think I relate most to the quote, “Peace.  It does not mean to be in a place where there is no noise, trouble, or hard work, it means to be in the midst of those things and still be calm in your heart.”  I still have feelings of anger, frustration and sadness yet my foundation is that peace, that positive possibility and my willingness to handle it.  When I feel negativity coming on, I have learned to express it.  Some people may call it venting.  For me, it’s reaching out in a safe place, a safe person who is willing to listen and it’s amazing how just doing that takes away the long-staying power of negativity, which is how my life used to be.  I’m not fearful of expressing myself for it releases a lot of anxiety and it’s amazing how others can offer wonderful input based on their life experience.  Just as we are not alone in working on our sobriety, we are not alone when needing help, a shoulder to cry on, a friendly voice to calm us.
        WFS provides the tools for obtaining and maintaining sobriety.  It also provides a safe place to seek and ask for help.  It is not easy to ask for help yet this past year especially has shown me what a difference it makes to take this risk.  My feeling is that if I don’t walk this journey alone, why would I be resistant to asking for help when I need it.  In order to have your first conscious sober act be to remove negativity from your life, seek help in understanding how you can do this.  It doesn’t mean you don’t have these feelings, it means you are seeking ways of handling them and releasing them from becoming a powerful force in hurting yourself and harming your relationships.  It’s all about balance.  As you acknowledge negativity and find positive ways to work through it, you learn trust… trusting yourself and others.

If you are resistant to seeking help, perhaps it’s time to ask:
 
·         What your greatest fear is in doing so?  Rejection, appearing weak?
·         Do you trust yourself enough to trust others?
·         Where is your safe place?
·         Are you able to recognize and acknowledge negative thoughts?
·         Are they actually related to a current situation or an old message that distracts you from working through the “now”?
-WFS Member
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Tuesday, July 4, 2017

July 2017 Reflections

Excerpts from the July “Reflections For Growth” Booklet by Jean Kirkpatrick, Ph.D. 

Spirituality
July 2
    The beauty of a flower – a daisy, a rose, a bouquet – displays the Intricate Hand of Creation
    Who is not moved by this beauty, this perfection?
    Today I shall be attuned to the beauty surrounding me and I will know closeness to the Universal One.
Trust
July 6
    Did you ever say to someone, “I trust you” and then wonder if you really did trust that person?
    That has happened to me, although not recently.  But the moment I say, “I trust you” I feel very vulnerable.
    Today I will be more trusting of myself and my emotions.
Rejection
July 12
    When we are turned down, or overlooked, or passed over, we are rejected.
    Feelings of rejection are almost as common as feelings of loneliness and depression.  They are certainly just as devastating.
    Today I will make a large effort to see the love others feel for me and will get rid of the feelings of rejection I sometimes know.
Love
July 24
    Without love, life is merely an exercise in existence.
    We were made to love – to give and receive it and, when we don’t, we are like robots moving from one lifeless experience to another.
    Today I will express love for others.
Depression
July 28
    A well-developed sense of my self and my individual self-worth provides me with the first building block in overcoming my depression.
    How can I feel depressed, unloved, neglected if I can see myself as a fully developing, wonderful woman.

[Thank you, “EmbraceLife”, for choosing this month’s reflections!]

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“We are Capable and Competent, Caring and Compassionate, always willing to help another; bonded together in overcoming our addictions.”
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Monday, July 3, 2017

Monday's Message ~ Statement #1

 

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“Freedom lies in being bold.”  -Robert Frost
 
“Independence is happiness.”  -Susan B. Anthony

“Even in the midst of devastation, something within us always points the way to freedom.”
-Sharon Salzberg

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Statement #1, “I have a life-threatening problem that once had me.”
I now take charge of my life and my disease.  I accept the responsibility.
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        With the many 4th of July celebrations taking place across the United States this week, I am reminded of another type of independence; freedom from the effects of active addiction.  Before my New Life, I doubted that I could achieve this freedom.  Fear, alcohol and panic ruled my life.  This was a very painful way to live, to exist.  Today, it is such a joy to wake up free of a hangover, to know exactly what I did the night before and live with a more balanced state of mind.
        The WFS Program provides guideposts to achieve this freedom and Statement #1 is the starting point.  Face to face meetings, the online forum, and Jean’s books provide insight that translates to action.  Each woman has the opportunity to create a new life that reflects her goals, dreams and aspirations.
        Freedom from alcohol or drug fueled emotional turmoil is empowering, and the way Jean wrote this Statement brings about feelings of attainability.  The wording is inclusive and lays a foundation of trust for the woman who feels doubtful or discouraged.  Even the name of the WFS Program follows suit; WFS Program New Life Acceptance Statements.
        In addition to celebrating the United States Independence this week, I will also remind myself of my own independence and focus on the many, beautiful rewards.
What freedoms do you enjoy in your New Life?
Hugzzz, Karen

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Hi 4C Women,
        I always think of the word “available” because the freedom of sobriety is that I am physically and emotionally available, clear of mind, no matter what time of day or situation.  Sobriety has released the need for excuses, the fear of being caught in a lie and hating myself for not being able to help a loved one - including myself.
        It is amazing how accepting responsibility, taking charge of my life, gave me a whole new dictionary to choose positive definitions of me!  I started using words like lovable, courageous, smart, powerful, content.  My joy was authentic.  I was recognizing how resilient I truly was because I now had the tools to combat those negative definitions that I once used to describe myself.  I wasn’t that unlovable, stupid woman that I once saw in the mirror.  I saw someone entirely different and realized that she was there all along.  I had been smothered in negative thinking that alcohol seemed to confirm.  It clouded my thinking.  What beautiful clarity sobriety brought.
        It is what I see at the face-to- face meetings as women courageously make the decision to stop drinking or using.  They become that caterpillar that blossoms into a beautiful butterfly.  They are free; they fly in all their beauty and strength.  That is the positive change, the empowering experience of accepting responsibility, being in charge of one’s life and opening those wings of freedom that sobriety can bring.
        Are you ready to experience that freedom today, to be available, to be that person who is trusted, to continue working toward positive change?  Most of all, if you are practicing Statement 1 and are taking charge of your life, are you willing to be the role model that is passing this life-changing program on to others?  Giving back what you have been given is the greatest gift and reward of all!  WFS Member
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Article: 7 Popular Alternatives to AA

 
 

7 Popular Alternatives to Alcoholics Anonymous

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Our WFS group moderator in New Jersey came across this article that WFS is mentioned in and we wanted to pass it along to share some information on other alternative groups as well:
 

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Saturday, July 1, 2017

Monday's Message ~ Statement #3



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“Happiness is acceptance.”  -unknown
 
“Life is so constructed, that the event does not, cannot, will not, match the expectation.”
-Charlotte Bronte

“Being happy doesn’t mean everything is perfect.  It means you’ve decided to look beyond the imperfections.”  -unknown

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Statement #3, “Happiness is a habit I will develop.”
Happiness is created, not waited for.
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        When I was younger, happiness was chased after.  When I turned a certain age, or when this/that happened, then I could be happy, but the happiness never came.  I would stand at the appointed moment and look around, much like Linus waiting for the Great Pumpkin in the classic cartoon, and end up empty handed.  My expectations easily exceeded any experiences.  This left me feeling a deep sense of lack which alcohol quickly erased, yet it was not possible to understand the destructive cycle enveloping my life.
        Sobriety and Statement #3 in action provide a portal for happiness to be expressed instead of sitting by idly, “waiting for the time when everything in my life would miraculously change and then instant happiness would follow” as Jean so insightfully states in our Program Booklet.  Happiness cannot be found “out there” but rather I have found that it rises from within.  Happiness could be defined as a by-product of awareness and acceptance.
        Today, the well of happiness has been tapped into and is free to use wherever and whenever.  It is as individual as our fingerprints and yet when combined, can satisfy the most parched of inadequacies.  Happiness nourishes the body, quenches the mind and elevates the spirit.
What do you need to release the valve and allow happiness to flow?
Hugzzz, Karen

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Hi 4C Women,
        Happiness was always elusive to me because I did seek it from others whether it was for approval, acknowledgement or planning an adventure.  It was always in someone else’s hands.  While I felt happy at those moments, it was from the outside and never the inside.  Statement 3 provided a valuable lesson and I finally realized that it was my responsibility to create happiness, that to expect others to do so placed an unfair burden on them.  It also opened up a whole new creative outlet for me.  I never understood just how I needed to discover what created my own happiness, my inner joy.
        What I discovered and learned is that joy/happiness comes in moments and that it’s the awareness that needs attention.  I have developed a sense of peace/contentment as well so when the major challenges come, I know it is part of life and I have a wonderful support system.  Happiness and joy will come again as long as I am aware.
        I picked up a book at the WFS Conference by Iyanla Vanzant about self-awareness, “Don’t Give It Away!”  There’s a page where she says that she chooses what she wants.  The questions are:
What I really want is ...
I really want to ...
This would make me feel ...
Three things I am willing to do to get what I want ...
The things that make me smile ...
 
Apply this to happiness/joy and begin the journey of discovery.  Dig deep and answer these questions.
WFS Member
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Tuesday, June 20, 2017

New Meditation CD!

http://www.wfscatalog.org/Transformed-A-Guided-Meditation-CD-CD136.htm

NEW GUIDED MEDITATION CD!
 
$14.95 for one...
2 for $25.00
3 or more: $10.00 ea.

Experience the power of being guided on a walk through the WFS 13 Statements. You will be led through a series of visualizations that will strengthen your understanding of each affirmation. After this session it will be easy to apply the statements to your own life. You will receive a visual treasure to associate with each of the foundational statements of WFS and the New Life Program. Your life will be Transformed!

Recorded by Ginger Rathert.  Ginger joined WFS shortly after she began her final sobriety 2 and a half years ago. In her professional life, before she retired, she was a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist (LMFT) as well as a Licensed Professional Counselor (LPC). She holds a BS and an MA in Counseling. She received specialized training in advanced hypnotherapy, which she utilized in her practice. She began doing guided meditations when her son was a toddler as she put him to bed and "floated him on a cloud". Now she floats her 2 grandchildren when she babysits them. Ginger has led many women's retreats in her community, was a popular speaker and has done group guided meditations on many topics and at many venues. She, her husband of over 40 years, 3 Golden Retrievers, 3 cats and 3 horses live in Texas. 

[Length: 1 hour; recorded in spring 2017]