Thursday, June 14, 2018

Monday Thoughts ~ Statement #11




“If you approach each new person you meet in a spirit of adventure, you will find yourself endlessly fascinated by the new channels of thought and experience and personality that you encounter.”  -Eleanor Roosevelt

“Live your truth.  Express your love.  Share your enthusiasm.  Take action towards your dreams.  Walk your talk.  Dance and sing to your music.  Embrace your blessings.  Make today worth remembering.”  -Steve Maraboli

“Enthusiasm is a divine possession.”  -Margaret Sanger

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Statement #11, “Enthusiasm is my daily exercise.”
I treasure the moments of my New Life.
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WOW!

Can you feel it?  The enthusiasm and joy from Conference weekend has been spread across the country, across the world even, brought to life from one woman’s past determination and enthusiasm for a New Life.  Through her own discoveries, our founder, Jean Kirkpatrick, PhD, opened a portal for incredible possibility.  Through this portal, enthusiasm continues to grow and evolve.

Our opening ceremony certainly evolved, and we let go…literally!  Moving and magical, whispers of enthusiasm began to build.  Saturday morning, Karlee Fain, our inviting keynote speaker took us into thrive mode, sending us off to empowering workshops and wonder.  Auction time filled our hearts and our totes with brightly colored quilts, masterpieces, an absolutely stunning scrapbook and many other gems to either share or sweetly savor.

Statement #11 was in full display during karaoke on Saturday night and we closed our weekend securing our connections.  Feeling refreshed and renewed, emails and phone numbers were shared, and new friendships cemented.  Thank you for being a part of this treasured weekend.  Ride your wave of enthusiasm!
 
Hugzzz
Karen
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Hi 4C Women,
      The conference was a joyful, enthusiastic, soulful event.  We bonded with understanding and acceptance.  I am at a loss to fully express the loving support shared throughout the weekend and that doesn’t happen often for me.
      Nancy Cross once wrote that Enthusiasm is like the jet fuel for motivation.  How do we sustain it?  Are we running on empty, so busy with everyday tasks that we lose our enthusiasm for even the smallest moments of joy or those spontaneous moments?
      Here are some tips I found online to the question of how to keep yourself motivated from http://ineedmotivation.com/10-ways-to-have-amazing-enthusiasm/: 

Be passionate  *  Be grateful  *  Be positive  *  Be proud  *
Be proactive  *  Be reasonable  *  Be enlightened  *  Be evolving

These are a few tips on being passionate in order to continue feeling enthusiasm: 

What puts a smile on your face?  Is there a particular event, a particular topic that makes your whole face just lighten up?  Whatever it is that makes you smile, and makes you happy whenever you encounter it, this is a sign of something you are passionate about.  I truly believe that happiness and passion walk hand in hand.  Both require each other.  So, following what makes you truly happy is a wonderful way to figuring out what you were put on Earth for.  Think about something that you do or that perhaps you used to do that brings total peace to you when you do it.  Peace is happiness, and happiness is passion. 

What do you find easy?  Usually, what we find easy for us to do, will be related to what we are passionate about.  It’s very hard to hate something that is very easy for us!  For example, let’s say you are naturally good at playing the piano, you will find the activity easy, and this ease makes it much more fun for you.  Fun leads to happiness and happiness is synonymous with passion.  So, assess everything that you do, whatever it is that you find really easy and fun, this may very well be your passion.  And don’t think that anything is off limits or silly.

What sparks your creativity?  Think about something in your life where you seem to always expand its horizon, always coming up with new, fun, and exciting ideas relating to that subject.  Whatever makes you creative, is probably something that you are very passionate about.

What would you do for free?  In this society, we are ruled by the almighty dollar.  That’s the way the system works, and that’s the game we have to play.  The problem is, this leads many people to seek making money first, instead of what makes them happy.  I have read countless number of stories about stock brokers and doctors for example, leaving their high paying positions to follow what they really love.  There is a reason for that.  I truly believe that if you follow what you are passionate about without thinking about if it will make you rich or not, you will end up being successful.  Doing what you have a passion for brings out your best, and this leads to greatness.  Greatness breezes to success.  Do you think that the most successful people in the world got to where they are because they wanted to get rich?  Absolutely not, they did what they were so passionate about, and their immense success was just a byproduct of their dedication.  So, think about something that you would just love to do, even if you were not getting paid. Think about something that you look forward to do, something that you wish you could do all the time.

What do you like to talk about?  The topics of conversation we have can definitely tell what we are interested in, and this is a good way to find out what we really enjoy in life.  Most of the time, we aren’t totally aware of this.  This is why, a very good way to figure this out properly, is to ask your friends.  Ask them what they believe you like to talk about the most.  Ask them what topic makes your eyes brighten up, and changes your entire behavior.  I can guarantee you that some of their answers will be surprising to you.  Some of these things weren’t that clear to you, but your friends can see the reaction on your face that you can’t see yourself.  Try it out, it’s a very insightful exercise, and one that can direct you closer to figuring out your passion.

What makes you unafraid of failure?  When we do what we are passionate about, we have total confidence in our abilities.  This makes us not worry about failing, because in our mind, how can we fail when we do what we love?  Doing what you love is a success in and of itself, so failure is like an impossibility.  Think of something that you just do or want to do, no matter what.  Something that you do not have second thoughts about.  Think about something that you feel you must do and that failure is not even a concern of yours, because the mere act of doing it is like the journey and the destination all wrapped up in one.  This may very well be your true passion.

This last one reminded me of the encouraging words we heard throughout the weekend.  It’s all about trying, facing the fear and letting it go in order to fill our lives with something that provides meaning, joy and enthusiasm.  What would that be for you?
 
Bonded in treasuring those moments of enthusiasm in our New Life,
4C WFS member
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Monday, June 4, 2018

Monday Thoughts ~ Statement #10




“Learning to love yourself is easier when you have someone to show you how.”  -Martina Boone

“Love is multi-faceted.  It can be shared in many ways.  We can receive love from friends, family, partners, colleagues, spouses, and even pets.  We can experience it through nature, companionship, romance, or a sense of loving connection to the world.”  -WFS Program booklet 

“All recovery roads lead to the ability to love and be loved.”  -Nancy Cross 

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Statement #10, “All love given returns.”  I am learning to know that I am loved.
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      In a few short days, over a hundred twenty women will be converging in a quaint little town in Pennsylvania.  Suitcases and auction items are being readied and the WFS office is in full swing.  Thanks to dedicated volunteers and our steadfast office crew, Conference 2018 will be underway in just days!
      Our founder Jean Kirkpatrick PhD, in her own search for a New Life, has given each of us a new way to experience sobriety; to enjoy the present, leave the past behind while planning for tomorrow.  What a gift of love the WFS Program is and a wonderful example of Statement #10 in action.  It is a joy to see Jean’s legacy in the hearts of 4C women everywhere.
      Love in action takes many forms.  From the online community, face to face meetings, WFS Conference or simply living a sober life, love continues to flourish.  Love is an expressway for courage, a path for learning and an opening for connection.  Soon, the sound of laughter will fill the dorms, with late night chatter and early morning walkers or joggers.  Workshops will inspire, encourage and bring insight or comfort.  Bids on the many auction items will continue to rise, showcasing the talents of creative 4C women.  Love will be displayed with new friendships being formed as Conference buddies get to know each other and familiar friends catch up.  Ready, set, GO!

Hugzzz
Karen
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Hi 4C Women,
      I am so excited to be attending the WFS conference.  This is my 25th conference and I continue to be inspired with all that is offered.  I am especially excited to meet new attendees and reconnect with friends I’ve made over the years.
      I love this updated Statement.  Every time I read, “I am learning to know that I am loved,” I feel as though I am being given a huge, warm hug.  It took a long time to learn to love myself and to believe that I am loved by others.  If I didn’t love myself, how could I accept that others loved me.  I encourage those who need to accept love from others, to consider the following questions about loving yourself first.  These were actually sent to me in 2007 by Nancy Cross, whose quote in included at the beginning of Karen’s message.  Nancy was a phenomenal woman who was very involved in WFS for many years. 

·        Do you love yourself?
·        Are you in harmony with you?
·        Do you treat yourself with respect?
·        Are you generous, kind and supportive of you?
·        Do you trust yourself and treat yourself as though you can be trusted?
·        Do you accept your weaknesses and celebrate your successes? 

      Until you love who you are...not just say it, but do it and believe it...you will never find the love you are or the love you believe someone else has to give you.
      The most important relationship is the one you have with yourself.  Love, nurture, practice self-care and all that love given to yourself will be returned and experienced in various ways--from romantic relationships, friendships, family, pets...What/whom can you add to this list? 

Bonded in learning to know you are loved,
4C WFS member
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Thursday, May 31, 2018

Monday Thoughts ~ Statement #9




“I had been so focused on what to discard, on attacking the unwanted obstacles around me, that I had forgotten to cherish the things that I loved, the things I wanted to keep.”  -Marie Kondo

“Leave who you were.  Love who you are.  Look forward to who you will become.”  -unknown

“By taking the time to stop and appreciate who you are and what you’ve achieved—and perhaps learned through a few mistakes, stumbles and losses—you actually can enhance everything about you.  Self-acknowledgment and appreciation are what give you the insights and awareness to move forward toward higher goals and accomplishments.”  -Jack Canfield 

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Statement #9, “The past is gone forever.”
No longer am I victimized by the past. I am a new woman.
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     The bright, pink juice of the ripe watermelon being sliced was dripping onto the counter and creating a sticky mess.  As the nearby bowl filled up with the sweet tasty pieces of fruit, my mind was flooded with emotions from the past.  Feelings of satisfaction and well-being induced a smile, while my present thoughts dove deeper into the past.  Was this a new aspect of Statement #9 coming to light?
      Sobriety and Statement #9 in action enable the release of painful emotions and feelings, yet it can also encourage feelings of contentment and appreciation.  Before handing out a slice of watermelon to any child, my mother would fold a paper towel into thirds, wrap them around each wrist and secure them with tape.  It was only then we could enjoy a juicy slice of watermelon.  These “watermelon sleeves” prevented sticky arms, legs and of course, furniture and became a family tradition.
      Our founder, Jean Kirkpatrick, Ph.D., knew how important it was to release the past and remain present.  Statement #9 provides a path for letting go, yet this healing Statement can also be utilized to cherish and not cling to those past moments which have contributed to our being.  Feelings of appreciation can enter, encouraging gratitude and contentment.  From a simple slice of watermelon to sobriety and New Life, life is sweet!
 
Hugzzz
Karen
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Hi 4C Women,
      I love all the quotes and how Karen reminded us that there are parts of the past we need to keep.  Statement #9 is about healing from the painful past and moving forward, not victimizing ourselves with living in the pain.  It reminded me of my 27-year marriage that ended in divorce.  I know the negative outweighed the positive, hence the divorce, but that is the key point - there were positives along the way.  Not that I don’t go back to the pain every now and then, but I don’t live in the pain and I don’t let it hold me hostage as it did in the past.  Resentment grows from holding onto the painful past.  It closes off the paths to healing, to forgiveness and to a New Life.  Letting go doesn’t mean the hurt wasn’t real.  It means we will not be imprisoned to a past we cannot change.  I think it is the purest form of freedom and forgiveness.
      In reflecting on the past, are you bound to the residual feelings of “should have”, “what if”, “why me” and mostly “regret”?  Here’s a different way to look at the past.  Accept that you made mistakes, learn from it so you set healthier boundaries, forgive yourself, practice self-compassion, trust yourself and build trust with others and have a plan that supports your choices to not repeat unhealthy patterns.  This will empower you to continue moving forward because you can’t do otherwise if you keep looking in the rear view mirror with fear and judgment.  You are a new woman!
Bonded in letting go,
4C WFS member
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Monday, May 21, 2018

Monday Thoughts ~ Statement #8



“Where your fear is, there is your task.”  -C.G. Jung

“Everything that seemingly happens externally is occurring in order to trigger something within us, to expand us and take us back to who we truly are.”  -Anita Moorjani

“There is nothing like returning to a place that remains unchanged to find the ways in which you yourself have altered.”  -Nelson Mandela 

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Statement #8, “The fundamental object of life is emotional and spiritual growth.”
Daily I put my life into a proper order, knowing which are the priorities.
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      Sobriety and recovery invite growth, yet it is the continued practice of Statement #8 which produces and illuminates the all-encompassing beauty of a 4C woman.  No longer held captive, independence begins to flourish, strength expands and discernment advances.
      Active addiction stunts healthy growth while slowly separating life from living, thereby increasing feelings of loneliness and separation.  Guilt and shame can develop, creating an even further divide.  Emotional and/or spiritual pain can begin to feel normal with the attempts to regain balance feeling foreign and fearful.
      From our WFS Program booklet, “Growth is an essential aspect of our recovery.  It is the process of learning who we are and where to focus our efforts for personal change.”  Identifying fears and moving through them instead of away springs Statement #8 into action.  Cultivating this growth boosts self-value and self-esteem, enriching life and cementing connections. 

Is there a fear holding you back right now?  What would happen if you moved through that fear? 

Hugzzz
Karen
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Hi 4C Women, 

I’ve said so many times over the years that I thought there would be a time when emotional and spiritual growth would be accomplished - job done, no further work required.  I am constantly learning how incorrect I was.  The good news is that the learning curve does lessen, yet it doesn’t end.  We continue to learn about our ability to face change without substances that use to cloud our judgment, gain knowledge about our resiliency to face fears, hurts or disappointments, develop a positive attitude along with positive self-talk, accept what we can and cannot control and releasing the past to keep moving forward.  That’s a lot of emotional and spiritual growth taking place once we are open and willing to take action.  That’s the most important part of any change.  Words on a piece of paper are just that - words.  While knowledge is necessary, it is the use of that knowledge in action that creates the powerful, empowering life we are seeking.  All of this requires time, dedication and commitment.  Mistakes will be made yet those mistakes teach us new ways of responding, reacting to future situations.  And let’s remember - we are not alone on this journey.  I value and appreciate the support and guidance from the women in WFS.  I feel safe and nurtured by them.  They have helped me achieve, relearn and accept myself where I am at each stage of my life. 

I found some questions from a book I bought at conference, Change Your Questions, Change Your Life, by Marilee Adams, Ph.D.  If you are wondering what might be helpful to practice Statement #8, consider some of her questions listed below: 

·        What are the facts here?  (I’m a big believer in gathering info before I react as I use to.)
·        What new ways can I think about or approach this?
·        Is this what I want to feel?
·        Is this what I want to be doing?
·        What am I missing or avoiding?
·        Am I seeing the big picture?
·        Will this get me what I really want?
·        How is this working for me?
·        What is my choice right now?

Perhaps you can share your situation with others you trust and obtain some input as you consider the questions above.  It’s all part of the emotional and spiritual growth journey and learning how to set priorities.

Bonded in emotional and spiritual growth,
4C WFS member
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