Monday, December 5, 2016

Monday's Message ~ Statement #12



 

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 “Believe in yourself when nobody else does.”  -Mary J. Blige
 
“You are the only person on earth who can use your ability.”  -Zig Ziglar
 
“We are capable of great accomplishment, but we can only reach this fulfillment when we have a complete belief in ourselves and capacities for accomplishment, for personal fulfillment.”
-Jean Kirkpatrick, Ph.D., WFS Program Booklet

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Statement #12, “I am a competent woman and have much to give life.”
This is what I am and I shall know it always.
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        Striking discoveries in my New Life were the false beliefs that I held about myself.  I often thought of more reasons why I couldn’t do something than reasons why I could do something.  Sobriety and Statement #12 in action dismantle those false ideologies and lay the foundation for the building and maintenance of self-truth and trust.
        Being competent arises from feeling competent which arises from thinking competently.  Unable to do this while under the influence, I unconsciously sought out situations and relationships in which I could feel cared for.  In hindsight, oftentimes I felt guilty, smothered and controlled and turned to alcohol in an attempt to escape.  Stuck in this cycle of negativity and alcohol, I lost self-worth quickly.  Competence faded and I felt small, miserable and incapable of anything.
        Practicing Statement #12 every day encourages self-discovery and provides a stable framework for truth and honesty.  Initially this was new territory and some days all I could do was continually repeat the words “I am a competent woman.”  Reading WFS literature, using the online forum/chats and hearing the uplifting words from amazing 4C women, I began to see myself differently …..then I felt differently….and now I am a competent woman!
Every day in every way, I believe and trust myself.
  Hugzzz, Karen

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Hi 4C Women,
        Competent - having the necessary ability, knowledge or skill to be successful.  It took a LOT of repeating, “I am a competent woman” for me to actually believe it.  Suffering (and that aptly describes how I felt) from low self-esteem, it was one of my biggest challenges.  Eventually it took hold and I slowly began behaving as a competent woman because I believed it!
        I recall a meeting when a woman introduced herself as an alcoholic and I reminded her that we introduce ourselves as competent women in WFS.  Alcohol and drugs are how we cope with life, it is not our identity.  She could not bring herself to say she was a competent woman.  That’s when the realization of how much work it takes to turn around the negative image we have of ourselves due to our addiction along with the negative messages we received from others throughout our lives.  It made me sad and also convinced me even more that I would do my best to help women feel empowered, worthy and competent.  So many negative messages swirl around in our heads, years’ worth of untruths and it is our responsibility to change that.  No one else can.  I have been privileged to share in the lives of women who worked and continue to work extremely hard at becoming competent women.  It’s not an easy task but the rewards are beyond expression.
        The next time you struggle with saying or feeling like you are a competent woman, stop the thought right in its tracks and deny it.  This might be the one time denial is a good thing.  We can’t deny what has been spoken to us, has crushed our spirit, led us to cope with alcohol and drugs but we can deny its hold, its grip of falsehood on our truth today.  I encourage you to shout it out - I am a competent woman and have much to give life.  This is who I am TODAY!!!  Believe it, live it.  -WFS Member
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Friday, December 2, 2016

WFS Chat-Fest

WFS Online Forum is holding a “Chat Fest” on Saturday, December 3!  If you are already registered for the forum and chat room – check the calendar for details.  If you are new to WFS and looking for additional support for your recovery during the holiday season – we encourage you to join the online community!  Click here for details:  http://womenforsobriety.org/beta2/group-info/internet-chat/
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Email: contact@womenforsobriety.org  *  Ph: 215-536-8026  *  Fax: 215-538-9026
Daily Inspirations on Twitter: @WFS4C  *  Check out the WFS Blog: http://wfsorg.blogspot.com

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GivingTuesday Fundraiser




WFS’s first GivingTuesday eBay Fundraiser was a success!  Bids are still being finalized ~ so far the total is $485 ~ PLUS an additional $420 in donations were sent in to support WFS that day!

Our deepest gratitude to the women who donated items for the auction and for all those that participated in bidding and donating ~ CONGRATS to the winners!!

Monday, November 28, 2016

Monday's Message ~ Statement #2




 
 
“You cannot have a positive life and a negative mind.”  -Joyce Meyer

“Negative emotions like loneliness, envy, and guilt have an important role to play in a happy life; they’re big flashing signs that something needs to change.”  -Gretchen Rubin
 
“The most important aspect of negative thoughts is that these thoughts always precede drinking bouts.  A state of ‘what’s the use?’ or ‘who cares?’ is the initiator for escape from reality.”
-Jean Kirkpatrick, Ph.D., WFS Program Booklet
 
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Statement #2, “Negative thoughts destroy only myself.”
My first conscious sober act must be to remove negativity from my life.
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        This time of year can bring about thoughts or emotions unequal with the season; feelings of loneliness, agitation or lack of feeling anything can invade the senses and create unbalance and shift perspective.  Sobriety and Statement #2 in action can end a cycle of negativity before it can take a strong hold while unleashing feelings of well-being and harmony.
        Awareness of negativity is the beginning of managing and reducing negativity.  The goal is not to eliminate negativity completely for it can provide a purpose; it can serve as a reminder of emotional work that may need tending to.  Once aware, energy can then be applied to the management of negativity.  Meditation, writing in a journal or speaking one’s needs are each great ways to manage negativity and feel centered again.
        This week, make it a priority to identify feelings within you.  Notice what brings a smile to your heart and what interferes with your inner balance.  Carve out time from all the seasonal preparations to just simply be.  Breathe.  Create a 4(C) point plan to manage negativity.  Soak in the twinkling lights.  Take in the delicious aromas and give yourself the gift of your own presence.
Every day I manage my thoughts and feelings.
  Hugzzz, Karen

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Hi 4C Women,
        Identifying feelings can be quite daunting, especially around the holidays when the senses are so bombarded with what may seem like downright demands that we feel constantly happy, joyful and full of gleeful feelings.  For many, this is a time of feeling stressed about meeting expectations, worrying about financial repercussions from spending too much, healing from loss and the deep loneliness that can result from that.
        As women learning to cope with these intensified feelings around the holidays, there is support and understanding within the WFS community of group members and the forum.  We have a place to share our authentic feelings and work through them.  I have found that when I hold feelings in, they become too powerful and I can feel myself shutting down, judging myself too harshly that I “should” be beyond these strong, negative feelings.  When I acknowledge these feelings, I can begin to use them to look at their origin, their truth, and figure out a way to turn these negative feelings into positive ones.  For me, that is the power of WFS - recognizing that I am in charge of my mind, my thoughts and my life.  If I have that power, I have the choice to change my thinking.
        Please notice I didn’t say “ignore my feelings” as that is what got me drinking in the first place.  I ignored, buried, numbed and drank my way through my feelings.  I changed the way I reflected on my feelings and sought support, acceptance and caring from the WFS group along with therapy.  I discovered that there were a lot of old messages in my history that I brought with me into the present.  Old messages that continued to hurt me and became a wall of negative proof that I was unworthy, unlovable, and invisible to those who mattered to me.  Now with that kind of thinking, how in the world could I possibly sort out the truth from the messages and discard the lies I believed all my life?
        There is no magic formula.  There is only the willingness to work at change and keep the truth of who you really are close to your heart.  For that truth is the new foundation, the wall of positive choice that becomes the new habit of thinking.  The next time a negative thought begins to form in your mind, stop and replace it with “I am” (lovable, powerful, worthy...) and keep repeating it until it becomes the automatic thought that pops into your mind.  Most importantly, ask for help, seek support and practice Statement #2.  It works!  -WFS Member
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Email: contact@womenforsobriety.org  *  Ph: 215-536-8026  *  Fax: 215-538-9026
Daily Inspirations on Twitter: @WFS4C  *  Check out the WFS Blog: http://wfsorg.blogspot.com
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Friday, November 25, 2016

Winter Sale & Handling the Holidays





By Jean Kirkpatrick, Ph.D. 

Price: $8.95    Sale Price: $5.45 

A diary of a one year publicity tour for Dr. Kirkpatrick’s book, Goodbye Hangovers, Hello Life.  Read about her many experiences meeting WFS group members and their moderators and doing speaking tours all across the U.S. 

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By Jean Kirkpatrick, Ph.D. 

Price: $16.95     Sale Price: $13.56 

A book about recovery - how it happens, what problems arise and how to overcome these problems.  Some chapters include: Taking Care of Number One, Self-Esteem, Mind Control For Life Control.”  Also included are three candid interviews with women alcoholics: a homemaker, a lesbian and a nun. 

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Price: $9.00    Sale Price: $6.00 

Actually there are TWO DESIGNS on this mug... one side says “HELLO LIFE” and the opposite side says "GO FOR IT" along with one of our favorite enthusiastic Statement Characters to cheer you on and brighten your day.  This classic shaped ceramic coffee mug holds 14 ounces and has a wide handle that fits comfortably in your hand and it is two-toned with the exterior color an energetic orange and the interior color a cheerful lighter shade of orange (looks sunshine yellow to wake you up!).  A wonderful gift for yourself, members of your group, and it makes a great gift for friends and family too.  The mug comes in its own box - perfect for gift-giving!  (There is no mention of WFS nor our information on the mug itself.) 

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Price: $5.95    Sale Price: $3.45 

WFS’s founder encouraged all women who are working the program to write down their thoughts and feelings on a daily basis.  This personal journal can be the beginning of your “New Life” adventures!  Size is 5x7 inches with 100 lined, spiral bound pages with a sturdy plastic cover and backing with a blue border and our WFS ‘woman on the mountain’ logo encircled with our 4C’s (capable, competent, caring, compassionate).  An elastic pen loop is attached to the Journal - a WFS pen is included!

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FREE U.S. SHIPPING ON ALL CDs & DVDs! 

Order must be placed separately.
Shipped cost will be removed when order is ready to be processed by the WFS office.
{Expires Dec. 15, 2016] 

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Empowering Thoughts Inspired by the Women for Sobriety 13 Statements, Volume 4, by Karen Hamm.  180 spiral-bound pages of inspirational, thought-provoking personal experiences from Karen as she works each of the 13 WFS Statements in her recovery journey. 

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In this series of booklets, we've gathered together articles (that were previously published in WFS's newsletter, Sobering Thoughts) with a certain topic in mind to help women, in their recovery, learn from the experiences and insight of women using the WFS Program.  This booklet is a great help with group meetings too!  These articles & more:

  • In Harm’s Way: Fighting the Holiday Temptation
  • Sharing Our Love
  • Delusion, Illusion, Disillusion
  • A New Year’s Plan
  • Handling Stress During Holiday Season
  • Gift Giving
  • My First Sober Holiday Season
  • Trying New Things for the Holidays
  • Those Families Again
  • Holiday & Coping
  • Fences of Freedom
  • Celebrate Sobriety!
  • I Give Thanks At This Time Of Year
  • Financial Perspective During the Holidays

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Start the New Year with:

Discounted Package includes:
Turnabout book, WFS Program & Beginner’s Booklets,
and The Woman Alcoholic CD. 

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Twelve small booklets that reflect a subject/emotion topic for each week of the month.  This bundle is a set of all 12 Booklets. 

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Deal Yourself A "New Life"!  This set of 13 playing sized cards contains one WFS Statement each.  Can be used daily to randomly pick a statement to work on, or in a group setting to select a statement for discussion.  NEW: One Mystery Bonus Card Included in Each Set! 

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REMEMBER WHEN CHECKING OUT IN THE SHOPPING CART - YOU HAVE CHOICE OF UPS OR USPS FOR SHIPPING WITHIN U.S.
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Email: contact@womenforsobriety.org  *  Ph: 215-536-8026  *  Fax: 215-538-9026
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YOU are here


By RAZZ

©     YOU are here, be thankful. 
 
©     YOU have a guide, be thankful for a program started by a brave and intelligent woman. 
 
©     YOU have found support, be thankful for all the awesome women who stand with you. 
 
©     YOU have found guidance, be thankful for the shared knowledge. 
 
©     YOU have found joy, be thankful for the milestones passed and the trials overcome. 
 
©     YOU have found compassion, be thankful for the many times others have shared your tears. 
 
©     YOU have found caring, be thankful for the women who believed in you before you did. 
 
©     YOU have found love, be thankful for the women who “loved” you because they understood you. 
 
©     YOU have found a home, be thankful for this safe place where you can be yourself and others will embrace you. 
 
©      YOU are here, be thankful!
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© WFS Inc. * Women for Sobriety, Inc., PO Box 618, Quakertown PA 18951
Email: contact@womenforsobriety.org  *  Ph: 215-536-8026  *  Fax: 215-538-9026
Daily Inspirations on Twitter: @WFS4C  *  Check out the WFS Blog: http://wfsorg.blogspot.com
DONATE NOW ~ Your Donations Help Support WFS’s Services ~ Thank you!