Monday, October 16, 2017

Monday's Message ~ Statement #13

 

Life is Change

Growth is Possible

Choose Wisely
 
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“Work on yourself first, take responsibility for your own progress.”  -I Ching 

“One’s philosophy is not best expressed in words; it is expressed in the choices one makes…and the choices we make are ultimately our responsibility.”  -Eleanor Roosevelt

“A sign of wisdom and maturity is when you come to terms with the realization that your decisions cause your rewards and consequences.  You are responsible for your life, and your ultimate success depends on the choices you make.”  -Denis Waitley 
 
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Statement #13, “I am responsible for myself and for my actions.”
I am in charge of my mind, my thoughts, and my life.
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        “I am in charge of my mind, my thoughts and my life” is an incredibly powerful sentence.  Completely unaware of this ability before my New Life, I lived in opposition, blame and felt utterly powerless.  It felt as though everything was impossible and responsibility was something to fear.
        One of the reasons I am so passionate about Women for Sobriety is these thirteen Statements change lives and lay a foundation for empowerment.  In the past, I lived life through eyes of a victim and retreated into alcohol for relief.  This not only didn’t solve a thing, I created further dependencies which, over time, tore away my identity.  Self-value and worth became what others needed or took which crushed my being.
        Statement #13 in action is empowering.  Discovering the ability to manage my own mind, I began to unlearn unhealthy behaviors and institute fresh lines of thinking.  These thoughts translated into action and I soon found myself living in a state of response-ability.  I began to define and create my own experiences and success instead of trying to fit into a one-size-fits-all box.  Connecting with women in face to face meetings and the WFS Online Forum, I began to learn about what responsibility is and isn’t, which eased my fears.  A whole new world of choice seemed to open right in front of me.  Opportunities never dreamt of came into view, leading to feelings of renewed spirit and empowerment.  I am in charge of my mind, my thoughts and my life.  You are too!  Hugzzz, Karen

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Hi 4C Women,
        I use Statement 13 whenever I feel overwhelmed with decisions that need to be made.  My mind gets a bit scattered and I tell myself that no matter what the outcome, I am in charge of myself!  In the past I was afraid to make decisions because I didn’t trust my instincts, feared failure and was not prepared to cope with it.  Never looked at failure as a life lesson, just plain old failure.  One of the side effects of my failing is that I have become a seeker of information.  I take my time in making decisions as I gather pertinent information.  The second side effect is that I now trust my instincts.  My many failures have filled my baggage full with invaluable lessons.  I once read that we are free to choose but not free from the consequences of our choices.  If I make a wrong choice, I put the consequences in my baggage of life-lessons.  No tearing myself apart because there is no lesson learned in that behavior.  As I practice Statement 13, I also begin removing the negative baggage that crushed my self-worth.  This is why it’s imperative to learn, to grow emotionally and spiritually, to forgive ourselves so that we live as empowered women.  We are in charge of our lives through the ups and downs, mistakes, right choices, failures and successes.

Consider these questions: 

·         How do you react/respond to failure?
·         Can you name the life-lessons you have gained in failure or success?
·         Do you give yourself credit for your successes understanding that you do make healthy choices?
·         What is an unhealthy behavior that you have unlearned?
·         What have you replaced it with?
·         Describe the last time you trusted your instinct – the situation, the people, the outcome.
·         Can you create a positive mantra that empowers you?

“Life is change, growth is possible, choose wisely” -WFS Member
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Friday, October 13, 2017

WFS Auction on eBay - THE FINALE


 
CURRENT STATS 

Total of 185 Items Listed on eBay to support WFS!
THANK YOU!!

Approximately $172 so far in “Buy it Now” options!

As of 7PM Thursday: 67 Items HAVE NO BIDS
WE CAN DO BETTER!

GOAL: BUY EVERYTHING!
 
Check out items - CLICK HERE
 

CLOCK IS TICKING:

FRIDAY THE 13th: 40 Items are CLOSING

SATURDAY: 36 Items

SUNDAY: 40 Items

MONDAY: 47 Items

TUESDAY THE 17th: 3 Items

As of 8:25 PM Thursday: $2,001.84 in TOTAL BIDS SO FAR!

LET’S KEEP GOING!!!
 

Tuesday, October 10, 2017

Monday's Message ~ Statement #3

 

 
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 “I felt my lungs inflate with the onrush of scenery, --air, mountains, trees, people.  I thought, ‘this is what it is to be happy.”  -Sylvia Plath, The Bell Jar

“Happiness is not something readymade.  It comes from your own actions.”  -Dalai Lama

“Happiness is the consequence of personal effort.  You fight for it, strive for it, insist upon it, and sometimes travel around the world looking for it.  You have to participate relentlessly the manifestations of your own blessings.  And once you have achieved a state of happiness, you must never become lax about maintaining it.  You must make a mighty effort to keep swimming upward into that happiness forever, to stay afloat on top of it.”  -Elizabeth Gilbert, Eat, Pray, Love

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Statement #3, “Happiness is a habit I will develop.”  Happiness is created, not waited for.
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        Statement #3 encourages insight and action.  Jean Kirkpatrick states in our Program Booklet, “Happiness is a feeling that comes from an inner contentment, comes from being pleased with ourselves.”  A personal example of applying this Statement was when I learned our youngest Chihuahua was diagnosed with congestive heart failure.  Noticing that he had started having difficulty breathing, our veterinarian immediately diagnosed the problem and he began medication.
        After experiencing and moving through the initial sadness, these feelings evolved into a sense of contentment.  The issue had been identified, the medication was working, and more importantly, my feelings shifted into gratitude and I began to luxuriate in the moments beside my 4-legged friend.
        In the past, alcohol would have stripped my ability to move past those initial, emotionally painful feelings.  With WFS and action into Statement #3, I feel a deep sense of inner contentment knowing that I can move through difficulties and feel pleased with my response.  Instead of turning to alcohol for relief, I have tools to live and experience life with greater ease.  Today, I understand there is a wide spectrum to happiness that includes acceptance and contentment.    Hugzzz, Karen
 
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Hi 4C Women,
        I have a book on happiness:  “Field Guide to Happiness” by Barbara Ann Kipfer.  This book has 4 sections - Lists, Mind-Mapping, Keeping a Journal and Miscellaneous.  Now that last section intrigued me so I looked at it first.  It is chuck full of ideas to create happiness - 48 to be exact.  I’m not a fast reader so I skimmed over it and included a few.

·         Describe your favorite songs and how they make you feel.  Music stirs powerful emotions.
·         Read something that you want to read, not something that you feel compelled to read.
·         Create an “Alter” on your desk or by your bed – not something necessarily religious but more spiritual and cheering.
·         Open up your options for using simple means to raise your spirits.  Whatever you choose should replenish you, add to your fulfillment, nurture calmness or patience or general happiness.
·         Approach new experiences as opportunities to learn rather than occasions to succeed or fail.  Doing so opens you up to new possibilities and can increase your sense of happiness.
·         Seek out personal quiet time – resisting the idea that it’s a waste of time or it’s not working for you.
·         Give – in any way you can – time, help, money, stuff.  By being fully present and cultivating gratitude, generosity and kindness, we can find the renewable source of happiness in ourselves in each moment.
·         Drift – Let your mind drift for a few minutes.  Watch the clouds floating by or the fish swimming in an aquarium; observe the wind in the trees or grass, a fire in the fireplace, stars in the night sky.  Let go and let be.  Observe without judgement.
·         Create something you can tend to.  We often tend to the little rips, tears and loose buttons of life.  But how about tending something where you are actually nurturing growth?
·         Add dance.  Dance when the spirit moves you.  Disappear in the dance.  Dance as if you are expressing your gratitude for living.  In general, let life be more of a dance and less of a battle.  Dance a little bit each day.

        Years ago, I thought that it was the responsibility of others to make me happy.  I placed a great burden on them, an impossible task.  Thank goodness WFS included this very invaluable statement and lesson for me to live by.  I also learned there is a difference between people who care about me and do things that create happy moments and times for me and expecting them to do so.  I find immense joy in helping others, in sharing my life experience with the hope that I can bring encouragement to others, experience love and find happiness in being with my family and friends and lastly, I absolutely love to decorate for Spring, Fall and Winter.  When all the decorations are on display, I have this big smile across my face and in my heart.  There are many loving memories attached to my decorations.

«  What brings you happiness and joy?
«  Which of the ideas above do you think you can incorporate into your life to build or enhance your foundation of happiness?
-WFS Member


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Email: contact@womenforsobriety.org | Ph: 215-536-8026 | Fax: 215-538-9026
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Friday, October 6, 2017

WFS Fundraising Auction on eBay has started!



WFS AUCTION HAS STARTED
 
October 6 - 15, 2017
 
  • Invite your family, friends, neighbors, co-workers, group members, online friends... everyone can get involved and bid!  This is a fundraiser for Women for Sobriety and your contributions are greatly needed and appreciated!
  • There are varied 'end' dates so please keep an eye on the item you are bidding on to be sure you don't miss when it closes.  We may have items closing out AFTER the 15th.
  • There are also NEW ITEMS being listed over the next several days.
  • Here's the link to check on for ALL ITEMS UP FOR AUCTION:
 
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Email: contact@womenforsobriety.org | Ph: 215-536-8026 | Fax: 215-538-9026
PayPal Giving Fund: 100% of your donation reaches WFS and contributes to our mission.
DONATE NOW ~ Your Donations Help Support WFS’s Services. Thank you!
 

Tuesday, October 3, 2017

Monday's Message ~ Statement #10

 
 
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Our love is with each of the victims, first responders, police and the entire city of Las Vegas.  We join the world in sharing our love and support. 

“Love is just a word, but you bring it definition.”  -Eminem 

“Don’t judge each day by the harvest you reap but the seed you plant.”  -Robert Louis Stevenson 

“It is only in the giving of oneself to others that we truly live.”  -Ethel Percy Andrus 

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Statement #10, “All love given returns.”  I will learn to know that others love me.
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        Statement #10 “All love given returns” was the theme for our Conference in June and WFS continues to see, feel as well as need, your support and love.  Continuing with this theme, it is a thrill to announce our first ever eBay Fundraiser!  This exciting new fundraising event starts on October 6 and runs through the 15th.
        You can put Statement #10 into action and participate by inviting your family, friends, neighbors, co-workers; everyone can get involved!  If you have an eBay account and have items to list and sell, follow the provided link below.  If you do not have an account, please consider creating one so that you can directly participate in this wonderful new fundraiser with WFS!
        WFS is a 501(c)3 nonprofit organization and our mission is simple, to help all women find their individual path to recovery.  We recognize each woman’s necessity for self-discovery and our vision is to encourage each woman in developing personal growth and continued abstinence through our New Life Program.  Please join us in this marvelous new adventure!  Hugzzz, Karen


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Hi 4C Women,
        I am so glad that Karen has reminded us of the eBay Auction in support of WFS.  There are so many ways to give and receive love.  The eBay auction is one way to show love for an organization that has changed lives in such a powerful way.
        I have learned a lot about love in WFS.  I mentioned in previous messages that I always thought love referred to romantic love.  WFS taught me that love occurs in various ways; from learning the importance of self-love, to forming loving and supportive relationships and the unconditional love given to us by our adorable pets.
        I have experienced loving friendships from the wonderful women I have met in WFS.  There have been times over the years, and especially this past year, that I have been struggling emotionally.  It is the loving support that I have received from my WFS sisters that has helped keep me strong and focused.  This support is part of the reason I encourage everyone to find some way to give back to WFS whether it is continuing to attend meetings, financial support, volunteering on a committee or becoming a moderator/co-moderator/chat leader.  Part of my giving back has been moderating a WFS group for 27 years.  I want to be there for every single woman that has the courage to walk through the door to attend a face to face meeting for the first time.  While I may not be a chat leader on the Forum, there are many dedicated women who volunteer their time to lead meetings and help is available 24/7 for those in need.
        Being a moderator for me is to be a role model yet the bond is that all of us are women in/or seeking a healthy recovery.  This is the most loving part of the friendships I have made in WFS.  The group supports me when I need encouragement.  I receive emails from the Monday messages, thanking Karen and myself for sharing our personal feelings and history.  This is all part of all love given returns.  I am blessed beyond measure for the love I have received.
        Something to think about when it comes to love and relationships.  Heard this on a TV show last night.  “Relationships are the cornerstone of life.  They are the place that we go to, to find comfort, connection, companionship.  Relationships are also the places that we go to act out whatever it is we learned in life about ourselves, about love, about life.”

·         When considering how all love given returns, how are you experiencing and receiving love?
·         Is there comfort, connection, companionship or are you acting out in a way that blocks giving and receiving love?
·         What actions can you take to break down any walls that you feel are creating distance from both giving and receiving love?
·         How does your way of giving and receiving love impact and protect your sobriety?
·         Is your fear of being vulnerable keeping relationships from being formed?
·         How can you build trust in giving and receiving love?

Lots to think about.-WFS Member
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Email: contact@womenforsobriety.org | Ph: 215-536-8026 | Fax: 215-538-9026
 

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